Monday, May 30, 2011

AWTR Show 317: Male Military Spouse Perspective


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AWTR Show 317: Week of May 30, 2011

Join the AWN team this week on Army Wife Talk Radio for a conversation with Wayne Perry. Wayne is a military spouse – aka “Army husband”. He’s here to celebrate Military Spouse Appreciation Month and talking with us about the male perspective.

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"Loved and were loved"

Happy Memorial Day? No; that's not right.
In the words of a good former boss of mine, MAJ U, "Words mean things." 
by Starlett and Tara Henderson

Happy = delighted, pleased, or glad
Memorial = something to remember the dead
Day = division of time equal to 24 hours

From the get-go, you can see why this greeting pricks the conciousness of many. There was a blog to that effect years ago, by Kathleen. Happy does stand out as shallow, but as Kathleen suggests, some just don't know what to do.

Not everyone is as poetic as say, John McCrae with his WWI poetry.

In Flanders Fields by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.

As the poem suggests, "If ye break faith with us who die, we shall not sleep."

So, instead of Happy Memorial Day, what can we say?
Here's one thought: Why not let your actions speak (louder than your words)?

I thought the Defense.gov's Memorial Day feature post had a good list of things to do:

o  pause for a moment of silence at 3pm or sound an alarm
o  decorate a gravesite
o  attend a memorial parade or ceremony
o  accept and wear a red poppy
o  learn about this day and educate others

I sat and educated my daughter yesterday, and in the meantime educated myself.
For instance, I didn't know the reason for a red poppy. And when I read McCrae's poem,
I thought...that is for a different country's Remembrance Day.

But did you know? There are Americans buried in Flanders Field, and even if there weren't,
there are American allies buried in that field. They "loved and were loved."

And now they lie.

I'm not advocating we give up our American social gatherings: from baseball games to bbqs.
But in the midst, "honor the gift of freedom that these heroes have given us."

Truth is those heroes would want us to be happy, and we want them to know we memorialize their selfless sacrifice. This is something we want known everyday. But today is "the day" set aside. So, if you must exclaim or greet your friends and passersby, maybe you can try what we are trying here at home.
 
Call out the greeting: "Remember! It's Memorial Day."
 
Of if you are greeted with a call of "Happy Memorial Day," respond with "We will not forget."
Let them who notice ask, "What?" or "Why?" Being ready to answer is the least we can do.
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Sunday, May 29, 2011

End of the Year Madness

May is probably the craziest month of the year - even worse than December. Why? It's the end of the school year, among other things.

This year, May was probably even crazier than others. DH was gone to his AT for pretty much the whole month. Unlike other years, this year I had a HARD time with it - for a number of reasons.

One of the reasons, is that in addition to being a full time teacher, I sing with the May Festival Chorus where we live. For two weeks of May, we have 4+ hour rehearsals every night. So, the last two weeks, I had to come home after school to let our doggies out and feed them, then get to Music Hall and in my seat ready to start rehearsal at 6. On Saturdays we had rehearsals from 9 -1 and then performances on Friday and Saturday night for two weekends in a row. Three Saturdays ago, we had a rehearsal from 10 - 5 and then the next day from 2 - 9. We put in a lot of time. This is my first year with the group, and it was an awesome time. I just wish I could have had my DH home to help out with things. I currently have a new slip cover on our couch because our new doggie chewed up our couch (and we need a new one) while I was either at school or at rehearsal. It's definitely been a learning experience - good prep for deployment, I guess.


It's the end of the school year, and I teach K - 5th grade Music. At this point, most of the kids have checked out, so to speak. Me, on the other hand, I have grades galore I have to post and TONS of papers/projects to grade. While I'm ready for the end of the year, I'm not ready for it. In addition to that, our school's tax lecvy failed, so I'm also looking for a job again. I have faith that the right doors will show up for me to go through.

Things have been a little nutty in the house of this Army Reserve family. I missed my husband so much while he was at AT. It was hard to only get to hear from him once every 4-5 days over the last 3 weeks. It was so much like deployment that I couldn't stand it knowing he was in the states. While he was there, his phone broke (we're now waiting on the replacement to get here), their internet was taken away, and even before his phone broke, the service signal was so awful that our 1 phone call was dropped after just a couple minutes.

Friday night, as I was getting ready for our concert, DH walked through our door (needless to say, I was late for our call time). It is just SOOOOOOOO good to have him home and talk to him.
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Friday, May 27, 2011

One FRG does not equal ALL FRGs.

There was a time that I didn’t understand why some spouses were dead set against joining the ranks of their FRG, until I experienced it first hand.

The most recent FRG Leader that I served under before our recent pcs was an ex soldier who had some kind of competitive streak going with her husband. She treated us volunteers like we were her husband’s soldiers. It was rare that we got a thank you, or a please and we were always just “voluntold” what to do. Of course we didn’t appreciate this and It wasn’t a very good environment, but we really cared about the families and ignored it as much as we could until we had enough and resigned our positions. It was disheartening and after that stint, I had swore to myself that I would NOT get involved in FRGs from that moment on.

Then we got PCS orders overseas.



Once we got here, I was still adamant of no involvement in the FRG. I remember going as far as telling my husband that I would “sit this one out.” when it came to the deployment and being involved.

The first FRG event that i was attended with our new unit here was the Company Halloween Party and I was impressed beyond words. I’ve never seen anything like it. This Halloween party wasn’t your generic store bought cupcakes and sugar loaded goody bags...oh no! It was Bradley rides, a haunted house almost too scary for myself, games, pumpkin carving, hot food, and an updated version of bobbing for apples where they cored the apples shortly before the game, tied them to cords hanging from the ceiling, and anyone could have a bite at it, even the Lt. got involved. I was in FRG heaven.

During the FRG events that followed the Halloween Party my feelings kept growing and growing, but despite the crush that I had developed on my FRG, I still maintained the anti-involvement mind frame and just sat back and observed.

Eventually I noticed things that began changing my mind. The one thing that sealed the deal for me was the outgoing FRG Leaders passion. When she was hosting an event or talking to a bashful wife, you could see her passion and her patience and that she wanted to be there, and it was contagious. Her passion paired with the resources available to the FRG and the percentage of involvement with the families made me feel like this FRG was something special and I would be stupid to not be a part of it.

It was shortly after the new year when I became an official part of the FRG. I am so glad that I took the time to sit back and observe before my misconceptions hindered my FRG experience forever.

This is my suggestion to you today. If you are at a place right now where you are at a new duty station, with a new FRG, and are against joining because of a previous FRG, than do yourself a favor and just take some time to observe it for a while. Pay close attention to how the Leader interacts with the spouses and take note of the amount of involvement with the families. I almost made the mistake of thinking one FRG equals ALL the FRGs, and I'm glad that I learned that it doesn't.



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Thursday, May 26, 2011

What is your life saying to you?

Watching the final Oprah episode (in 3 different sittings mind you, due to some trips to the basement during tornado sirens) I found myself tearing up. I've watched her since I was a kid with my mom and sister and I could not help but feel like I was in a trance listening. She inspired me to hop on here because all I kept thinking about was the Army Wife Network fans, the team, and all the bloggers out there that are inspiring one another and also serving as a bit of an outlet, or a means for others to read and feel validated that they too are going thru the same things. To those that share their journeys, their trials, their quests, accomplishments, joys, sadness, tips, tricks, and just plain virtual smiles, thank you for having the courage to do so.

"You also have to know what sparks the light in you so that you in your own way can illuminate the world. You have the power to change somebodies life."

I love to see all the activity, battle buddy connections, and comments along Facebook and here on the blogs. It is our way of letting you know that as Oprah talked about today- what you say matters, and we hear you.

Personally, having gone thru some major life challenges the last few months, I found myself inspired to get up and get back to living the life I was used to. It was time to stop wallowing and start living the life I was meant to live. I was put on this earth for a reason and darn it, I plan to figure out exactly what that reason is.

I hope when you wake up tomorrow, you feel inspired. You are here for a reason, a purpose and if you haven't yet.....get out there and start trying to figure out what it is you were meant to do.
As Oprah asked, I challenge you to think about this- and if you feel inclined you may post your answer, if not go ahead and keep it private, but just ponder this for a bit... "Your life is speaking to you. What does it say?"

All the best.
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Monday, May 23, 2011

AWTR Show 316: Military Spouse of the Year


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AWTR Show 316: Week of May 23, 2011

Join the AWN team this week on Army Wife Talk Radio for a conversation with Military Spouse Magazine’s 2011 Military Spouse of the Year.

Resource of the Week: Team Fisher House

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Sunday, May 22, 2011

This Everyday Life...

Wow! As I write this entry, we are looking at just a little bit of time to be what I like to term “dadless”. It has been a long year for sure, but through it all, we have experienced tremendous growth. When I think back, sometimes it is easy to see only the negative things that have occured, but thinking it through, there are so many positives....

I will never diss this Army Life...NEVER! It has afforded me some wonderful opportunities most will never have the gift of getting. I get to stay home with my wonderful little ladies and truly get to experience each and every one of their personalities without the worries of a true “single Parent”. I think they will all agree when I say we have had our challenges, but through it all, we have grown in love with one another along the journey!

My husband is a hero.... that alone takes my breath away. I think every one is a hero in their own right, but mine should be on a long list kept under lock and key of “true heros”. Eric walked away from me 11 months ago knowing that there would be days he would just want to give up and hug his family. Through it all, he has remained resilient, diligent and assertive in his position “over there”. Are there days he wanted to reach through the phone and shake me? I am very certain there were... and vice versa. All those times I told him he was calling at an inopportune time were probably the icing on his cake, I’m sure. But you know what, we got through them in tact. And yet, at the end of the day, I hope he knows as crazy as life can get here at home, he will forever be our hero.

I DID IT! For the second time in as many years, I feel so proud to say I did it! I’m alive, the kids are alive (worn out, I’m sure, but alive just the same), and the animals are all alive. Take a big breath now... it’s almost over.
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Tuesday, May 17, 2011

AWN BOOKCLUB- May Bookclub Read

Hello and happy Spring to all of you fellow readers. I apologize for being away during the month of April. I was having some medical issues, but I am back on track and back to the book club! You may have heard Siobhan Fallons interview with us here at AWTR, if not check out the podcast you can find on our main page www.armywifenetwork.com it is under podcasts and is show # 305. After hearing the show, it struck my interest which is why this month, I will be reading and featuring You Know When the Men Are Gone by Siobhan Fallon. You can order the book here from AWN/AMAZON and read and comment right a long with me!!!
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Monday, May 16, 2011

AWTR Show 315: Dr. Christina Schlachter


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AWTR Show 315: Week of May 16, 2011

Join the AWN team this week on Army Wife Talk Radio for a conversation with Dr Christina Schlachter of DrChristinas.com. She’ll be discussion 101 Ways to chill out in 10 minutes and other relaxation techniques.

Resource of the Week: SargesList

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Friday, May 13, 2011

May 12 was Limerick Day

AWN held an impromptu Limerick Day contest on our facebook page.
If you're not a fan, you MISSED it. Be sure to be following our page the impromptu and fun stuff.

Our winner was
by Lyanna Calderon Marvin:

My hubby is a proud Army captain
Who one day wants to be a chaplain
He's now in Iraq
We just want him back
And in 4 weeks it is going to happen!!


All the hoopla reminded me that I wrote a limerick last year.
I didn't win any cool stuff from the AWN prize vault like Lyanna,
but I guess I'll share anyway. Here goes:

Passionate Life
a limerick by AWN co-founder Star Henderson:

There is an American girl,
who wanted to give life a whirl.
She married a soldier,
to love and to hold her,
and wound up seeing the world.

That lucky girl became Army Wife,
who always stands proud no matter the strife.
She counts it a blessing,
and goes on professing,
“Nothing beats this passionate life.”

We hope you enjoy your weekend. Congratulations Lyanna!
 
Oh and here's a shoutout to Facebook Fan Jennifer Limerick for having such a fun name.
She wins too!
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Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Real Life Military Mom - Loving Her Soldier

Monday night on Army Wife Talk Radio we had, what I consider, one of the best shows we have ever done. We interviewed real life military mom Sue Wagner. Sue stepped up to help her military son on his journey and found her own. "He said to me that he was going to do this with or with out me and it would be alot easier with me. That's when I knew I had to get on board," Sue said.

“Loving My Soldier Son, Brandon Walker, and loving my flowers from AWN and USAA!” 
AWN fan Erica Koelder a FRSA from Fort Bliss, TX sent us a note about Sue to nominate her for this show. 

 Sue is the proud Army Mom of SPC Brandon Walker (1st Engineer Battalion, Fort Riley). She lives in Wisconsin where she has taken on a volunteer role in her home area with Blue Star Mothers. She volunteered for the unit as a key caller to other parents during their most recent deployment. She made sure that every Single Soldier in her son's unit had treats/bath towels/toilet paper/a clean shower when they redeployed and when there were leftover household items, she left them to another Company who was coming home right after her son. No Soldier EVER went without treats or a note from home if she knew about it.

 
Sue also made it a point to take care of the FRG Leadership of the 1st Engineer Battalion. Whether it was a kind word in an email, or a small care package containing toys for a deployed Soldier's child, she took care of these women as though they were here Family.

 Sue embodies the true meaning of Army Mom and she understands what it means to be part of the Army Family. I have since left the 1st Engineer Battalion but Sue still checks in on me in my new unit. She is an amazing woman who I am so grateful for and deserves to be recognized as an outstanding Army Mom.

Our generous sponsors at USAA stepped up to help us treat Sue to a proper Mother's Day. Together we were able to send her these beautiful flowers. Head over to our site www.armywifenetwork.com and click on PODCAST to hear Sue's interview.
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Monday, May 09, 2011

AWTR Show 314: A Soldier's Mom


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AWTR Show 314: Week of May 9, 2011

Join the AWN team this week on Army Wife Talk Radio for a conversation with Sue Wagner. We’re celebrating Mother’s Day with a “real life” story of a military mom.

Resource of the Week: Arghand

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Tips for making the most of your next “military” garage or yard sale

Tips for making the most of your next “military” garage or yard sale© Tara Crooks

Garage/Yard sales are very popular in the military. That might have something to do with our mobile lifestyle. As we all know, all too well, the curtains from the house at one post may not fit the windows of the home at the next duty station. The pressed-wood desk you had purchased for your sons’ room definitely won’t make it through a move, and how many cookie sheets do you really need anyway?

Garage/yard sales not only help your customers save money by shopping gently loved items, they also let you make money for spending later!

It has been said over and over, “one man's trash is another man's treasure”. You can find unique items you can't just pick up at the mall. Think about it, even when you do buy something brand new, the next day it will be considered "used". Not to mention, we worldly military crowds can have some pretty neat stuff from which to pick.

Having a garage or yard sale is hard and exhausting work but they can be quite profitable. Here are a few tips to make your next sale a success!

• Find out if your post or neighborhood sponsors a “post wide” or “neighborhood wide” sales these are simpler because they do all or most of the next several steps for you

• Find out if you have restrictions in your neighborhood or local government – you may need a permit

• Advertise your sale on the web and in your local newspaper

• Put up signs (be aware that there are laws regarding the placement of signage)

• Put up flyers at the grocery store or around post on bulletin boards (check with regulations)

• If you do many sales invest in good signs that are reusable

• Use a marker or crayon (dark colored) for your signs and make them easy to read – NO ballpoint pens

• Avoid putting your signs on utility poles

• When posting your signs make sure they are up where they can easily be seen

• Don’t crowd your signs with excess wording – keep it simple

• Once your sale is over TAKE DOWN YOUR SIGNS

• Avoid having a perpetual sale – pick a date – have it – and then donate the excess to a local charity

• Make sure you have adequate parking

• Be considerate and let your neighbors know that you are going to have a sale

• Don’t pick a holiday weekend

• Expect Early Birds – but if you don’t really want them let them know

• Know when major employers in your area pay their employees and schedule your sale around payday – or for military just pick the weekend following the 1st or 15th of the month

• As you accumulate stuff for your sale, make sure you don’t sell something you’ll regret later – a good tip is to put it out in the garage in a pile and then if you don’t use it for a month you know it’s something that you need to sell

• Do not sell anything without the owner’s approval (i.e. your neighbors borrowed drill)

• Get your children involved by telling them they can keep any profits earned from the sale of their old toys or clothing

• Clean up your yard

• Get rid of anything that you don’t want to sell by covering it or putting it away from the sale area – sometimes this means you need to have a “driveway sale” and close your garage door

• Keep your pets in the house or in the back yard – even if they are friendly some people are afraid or dislike animals

• Customer Service – don’t just SIT and read your book while people browse – get out there and sell

• Price everything

• Fold it neatly and put items in “shop-able” fashion

• Make signs for larger items

• Be descriptive – if something doesn’t work tell the customer, if it is missing a part let them know

• Use cheap metal hangers so that if the customer wants to take it home you can offer them the hanger

• Put items that are attractive to men toward the street – men are harder to convince to “bargain hunt” than women

• Offer drinks (coffee or lemonade)

• Have background music (easy listening)

• Have change and plenty of it – you can always go turn it back into cash

• Offer to take credit cards for large items, you can set up an inexpensive card processing through paypal.com or propay.com (amongst others) and process them through the internet

• Don’t accept checks unless you are ready to deal with it when it is returned

• Guard your money box

• Have plastic bags available for customers purchases

• Post an “ALL SALES FINAL” message near your money box

• Don’t be afraid to “bargain”

The best advice is to split the sale costs with a friend or do a multi-family sale. They are easier to afford, and a lot more fun when everyone can get involved.
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Sunday, May 08, 2011

#milblogcon highlights (pt. 3 of 3)

Sorry folks, it's a week after the 2011 #milblogcon, but there was a lot to digest.
I had to break it up to four parts. Here is (pt. 3),
a follow-up to #milblogcon highlights (pt. 1) and #milblogcon highlights (pt. 2) of 3.

Saturday, April 30 Conference panels
DoD Blogger’s Roundtable: LTG William Caldwell live via video feed from Afghanistan.
LTG Caldwell gave a live video feed update on the NATO Training Mission in Afghanistan.
That was all well and good. They're making progress. They're graduating male and female trainees in order to establish a force from within Afghanistan to secure and police Afghanistan. And at the risk of sounding simple, I thought it was "neat" to get a front-lines view from the man in charge. (It was another bit of evidence attesting to the fact that senior military and government leadership think blogging/bloggers are good for "business." Otherwise, why would he have talked to us?)

There is a blog where you can follow the everyday business of LTG Caldwell and the NATO Training Mission: http://www.ntm-a.com/. So, I won't outline the particulars of timelines and resources expended and those still needed. Instead I'd like to share with you the question I had, one I haven't really answered for myself. One, I wonder if other Army wives haven't already thought themselves.

What does the Afghan Army's soldiers' families think about their service?
What does our Army share with their Army about taking care of Families?


LTG Caldwell talked in his speech about how important it is for our Soldiers and Families to share their stories with the American people.

Does our Army encourage their Army to share their stories with the Afghan people?

That was three questions, but all are in the same vein.
The one question--if boiled down--would be, "Are we standing 'shoulder to shoulder' and sharing all that we know, not just about making fighters, but about making warrior leaders?"

There's a lot I don't understand about the culture my husband said when I asked him these questions.
And when I asked LTG Caldwell's staff-member MAJ Good, an Army strategist, I was told that basically I was asking if we were teaching them to run before they mastered the crawl.

Fair enough. But I still did some digging.

Here are some stories that gave me hope that our American warrior leaders are teaching the future Afghan warrior leaders so much more than how to zero a weapon and establish a hasty defense.

From the NATO Training Mission Blog: The Pen is Mightier than the Sword
From the NTM-A newsletter Shoulder to Shoulder: Father and Son: A legacy of service  page 5
From MAJ Good's personal blog: Making Might Right
and from a female perspective: Force for Change: the women of the new Afghan Army

I learned that some families are behind their soldiers and some are not. It would be nice if Afghan women didn't have to serve in secret and the level of some recruits' education wasn't so desperately low. But what is nice are the stories of courage, progress, service, and teamwork. The question(s) still remain largely unanswered, but I'm glad I asked. And I'm glad LTG Caldwell and others took the time--take the time still--to make sure the stories of transition to a brighter future are told.
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Let me leave you with a link to real Army stories, the kind that LTG Caldwell said were so important to get out to the American people. ArmyStrongStories! "The site is dedicated to sharing the meaning of Army Strong through a dedicated Soldier blog, and video and written story submissions from Soldiers, family members, friends and supporters."
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Friday, May 06, 2011

Technology

Just the other day on Facebook I watched a video posted by my future sister-in-law of her son playing outside with his dad. He had the purest laugh and you can’t help but smile! Luckily, I told my Soldier and his mother about the video so through the cell phone I got to hear their delight in their nephew/grandson’s laugh. This video kept me sane throughout my finals week. It suddenly dawned on me that due to distances and deployments I have watched my soldier’s nephew grow up on Facebook. To families not in the military this may seem sad, but to me I rejoice in the opportunities that technology has provided.

Due to my long distance relationship with my Soldier, technology is what helps our relationship grow. I can’t imagine not being able to text my Soldier during the day for help on the daily crossword puzzle or call him with what I learned in school. While he was deployed, Skype became my new best friend! I am a person who takes every comment seriously and my Soldier loves to joke around in a monotone voice. Thus, without seeing his expression or body language I am quite often puzzled if he is serious or if he is joking. Thank you Skype for solving this problem!



Pictures!! I can’t explain how much I cherish my pictures. My soldier decorated my room at school the weekend before he deployed. He made a beach wall with decorations from the beach and of course a picture from his first ever trip to Nags Head. On another wall, he placed four pictures above my door of our growing relationship. Lastly, he made a military wall with pictures from his cadet days until the last time I saw him in uniform, the day he graduated Airbourne school. In the middle of these pictures, is an American flag with the sun shinning through making a cross visible in the flag. This wall was to remind me of the purpose he served in the military. I can’t imagine every changing out the pictures in those frames and look forward to finding their new places in whatever homes we live in.

If there was one possession I could save if our house burned down, it would be my thumb drive of videos. Prior to the start of Ranger School, my Soldier made videos. He made a calendar of when I could open specific gifts and videos to be watched at certain times too. As soon as I saw these videos the first time, I did not care when I was suppose to watch them so I watched them all at once. These videos mean the world to me because when I having a hard day or a good day I could play one and there he was. He was talking to me and I could hear his voice. Sometimes all you need is to see that smile and know everything is gonna be alright.

So, I wonder how my grandmother survived without this technology for three wars that my grandfather was in. She told me all she had was letters and if there was a fire that is the possession she would go back for. How has technology impacted your life as a military spouse?

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A Piece of Cake! to celebrate your being a military spouse

Wire A Cake & Army Wife Network have partnered to offer a CAKE
to celebrate a military spouse from the AWN "family of fans"!


As you know, May is the month of the Military Spouse and we want to recognize the sacrifices she/he makes in the sweetest way we know how.

Using facebook, you become eligible by 1st  clicking “LIKE” Army Wife Network then "LIKE" Wire A Cake/HB Bakery Connection business page and click on the event tab to the Cake Event Celebrating the Military Spouse. It is important to please post a comment on the event wall to introduce & tell us a little bit about yourself and your post will be qualified as an ENTRY. Only one nomination will be accepted for a spouse. “It's A Piece of Cake.” Well literally a whole cake but you know what we mean!

We will close the entries on May 31, 2011 5:00PM PT. AWN will randomly select a name from all the event wall posts and notify WAC of the winner. Once we have the appropriate information for you we will be in contact to arrange to send your delicious cake asap!

This event is exclusive to Army Wife Network fans that join Wire A Cake/HB Bakery Connection fan page.

It looks a little somethin' like this...



And the cakes look a lot like this!
 
 
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Thursday, May 05, 2011

Introducting OnLeave Magazine - Looking for Contributing Writers

AWN Proudly Supported by: OnLeave Magazine

OnLeave  is a blog and online magazine, with a personal touch, dedicated to the military travel community. We strive to bring you the most up-to-date information on military discounts and deals on lodging, cruises, restaurants, car rentals, theme parks, and much more. We also hope to inspire you with real-life travel stories from service members and their families. OnLeave is currently in development with full launch scheduled for late 2011.


We are currently looking for contributing writers for the “articles” section of the site. This is a paid opportunity for military members and spouses. For more information on this, please click here.

We started OnLeave out of pure passion for travel and for the military community. As a military family (I am a military veteran and my husband is in the Air Force), we have enjoyed traveling all over the world. Serving in the military (and serving as a military family) certainly has its downfalls. But travel is one of the perks for most of us. The military community likely travels more than any other demographic. Yet, there is no one-stop-shop through which to book travel, communicate with other military members, find discounts, and read travel stories from other like-minded families. With the collective power of one united community, we have more bargaining power through which to negotiate travel discounts. We are currently in discussion with several major travel affiliates, which will give us the ability to negotiate the best rates for military members and their families. The catch is, we have to grow this community first. We hope that you will help us!

We’re excited about the journeys on which OnLeave will take us. We invite you along…and don’t forget your passport!
David and Theresa Stephens

Co-Founders, OnLeave Magazine
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Wednesday, May 04, 2011

#milblogcon highlights (pt. 2) of 3

As promised...here is "(pt. 2)", a follow-up to #milblogcon highlights (pt. 1)

Friday was about socializing, the awards, the benefit concert, and USA Cares.

It was followed by Day 2 filled with panel discussions and some more personal highlights!

Saturday, April 30 Conference panels

Book Signing With Former Secretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld



So, getting our pictures with this smiling man was an honor.
He's got a new book out, Known and Unknown, so Tara and I did purchase copies and have him sign them. We got to be fans and it was exciting!

Admittedly, a little more exciting (don't tell Mr. Rumsfeld) was a picture with this smiling man:

Do you know him?  That's a fan of ours. A fan of our work (Army Wife Talk Radio and
Field Exercises) rather: Bob Gilead. Bob has supported us for so very long, and obviously
he "follows" our goings-on.  Because, we were getting ready to "take a break" when we were greeted at a conference door with a....."Are you Star and Tara?"

Bob has relatives in the area and found out we were in town. No, he's not a stalker.
He is the creator of CamoSock, which we give away around holiday times and at holiday Field Exercises.
**Bob you can't know what your support of AWN and our troops means to us. And you coming to find us and say "hi" made our hearts melt. Best of luck to your daughter on her deployment.

Here's his Web site to keep in mind for the perfect Holiday Gift Delivery System: http://www.camosock.com/.

Back to Mr. Rumsfeld for just a second. I don't write notes very often, so the highlights I'll share are from the things that did inspire me to take notes. During the Known and Unknown block, Mr. Rumsfeld mentioned the impact of a speech he heard at his college graduation. I looked it up as it is available at Rumsfeld.com. There are many quotables from that speech, but only one I'll quote here. Because, basically it sums up how I felt when trying to listen and glean everything I could from our Q&A with Mr. Rumsfeld.

What a man knows at fifty that he did not know at twenty is, for the most part, incommunicable. The laws, the aphorisms, the generalizations, the universal truths, the parables and the old saws all of the observations about life which can be communicated handily in ready, verbal packages are as well known to a man at twenty who has been attentive as to a man at fifty. He has been told them all, he has read them all, and he has probably repeated them all before he graduates from college; but he has not lived them all   Adlai Stevenson

Mr. Rumsfeld has been around for 1/3 of this country's history. He has lived a lot, experienced a lot.
Meeting him, for me, was like being a part of history.
Of course there's more. This is just part 2 of 3. I'm still digesting.
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I can tell you that we are working towards setting up an Army Wife Talk Radio interview with a Gold Star Family panelist (Joanne Steen) in the summer months. And, the darling husband who accompanied me to the milblog conference benefit concert will be taking me to one or two of the film debuts that will be featured during the GI Film Festival, which was another panel segment.
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How do you AWN- Cindy

Cindy A. Risch
I am so incredibly blessed to be married for 20+ years to my very best friend
Stuart, he was in the Army when I met him (as was I) and he obviously still is, we
have three children, two grandchildren and two dogs.
Where we’re from is such a loaded question, as it is to any military couple, let’s
see - I grew up in Michigan, met my husband in Texas (who is from New Jersey),
two of the kids were born in Michigan, one in Texas, we’ve lived in Virginia, Texas,
Germany, Kansas, Pennsylvania, and Oklahoma. I suppose that covers it :).
We are currently stationed at Fort Hood, Texas, this is our third assignment here,
if we combined the years spent at Fort Hood we would be starting our 11th year -
this could be considered “home”.
When asked to describe myself, I would say - my Family is everything, and when
I say Family, the first layer is my immediate family member, and the layers just
peel away after that to include my entire Army Family, my passion, excitement,
purpose, is taking care of “Family”.
I consider my position with Army Wife Network as, whatever I can do to help, and
currently that falls with the Resource of the Week initiative, I have the awesome
opportunity to find and provide resources to our Network, it is an incredible
privilege to empower others with these resources.
I started with Army Wife Network the first time I heard the show, actually, I was
hooked before I even heard it, I heard “of” it and was so intrigued, I listened, and
called Tara that day. I was stationed at Fort Sill, four years ago, and was lucky to
be included on the team!
The reason I became involved with AWN was because of the passion, excitement,
and knowledge, of Tara and Star. The mission of AWN is to empower Army Wives
and that pretty much says it all!
My favorite Army Wife Moment happens every week! There has never been a
show that I haven’t come away feeling like we accomplished what we set out to
do.
I think the Army Wife Network is import to Army wives because, it provides the
place for “real” knowledge, understanding, and empowerment for us all to meet
and glean from each other.
Army Wife Life, is simply - my life - other than AWN, Army Community Service
holds a lot of my passion, the Army Family Action Plan is a go to service for
making a difference in today’s Army Family Life. I also participate in our units
FRG, I believe volunteering and making a difference in new Army Families is
important to maintaining a total force.
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Tuesday, May 03, 2011

Care Package Ideas for Military Spouse Appreciation

Care Package Ideas for Military Spouse Appreciation
© Tara Crooks

A recent survey conducted by Army Wife Network of nearly 2,000 military spouses revealed some interesting findings when it comes to celebrating and appreciating the military spouse. Participants were asked to vote on (or add) their favorite item that would be included in a “military spouse appreciation package”.

As expected, many voted for the package to include their husband. And even though I know that there are hundreds of USPS Flat Rate boxes out there, I’m pretty sure that’s not possible.

What wasn’t expected was the level of practicality of the choices the spouses included. An overwhelming number of spouses chose a day at the spa. Other ideas followed; help with house cleaning, childcare, dinner, help with their automobiles, and of course lawn care. That doesn’t sound very fun if you’re the creative type. But don’t despair I’ve taken these practical “needs” to a whole new level and created some very fun gift ideas for you to celebrate the special military spouse in your life.

Spa Day

Nail polish (several fun colors)
Polish remover
Cotton balls
Nail file, clippers, etc.
Toe separators
Massage oil/lotion
Skin care (masque, exfoliator, etc.)
Robe or slippers
*Certificate for a mani/pedi or massage
Package this in a pretty gift bag with tissue paper

Household 6

Tiara
Sash (printed with Household 6)
Fancy cleaning gloves, broom, dustpan
Name brand (you know the ones you wouldn’t spend money on yourself) cleaning supplies
Microfiber towel
Candle or Reed diffuser
Special (I’m talking Victoria’s Secret type) laundry detergent
Mixed CD or dance music for cleaning
*Certificate for housecleaning (for the day she doesn’t feel like doing it herself!)
Package this in a plastic cleaning caddy complete with a bow

Date Night

Movie (DVD/Blu-Ray)
Microwave popcorn
Canned soda
Movie candy
*Certificate for local restaurant or fast food joint
*Date night isn’t complete without hubby so include a certificate for a “Flat Hubby” from http://www.flatdaddy.com/

Precious Car – Go!

Car soap
Tire cleaner foam
Sham-WOW!
Windex
Paper towels
Armor-All
Febreeze for autos
Hanging car air freshener
*Certificate for an oil change
*Gas Card
*Certificate for a car wash or car detailing
Package this in a bucket with a large sponge

Yard & Garden Party

Seed packets or flowers
Potting soil
Miracle Grow
Garden gloves
Knee pads
Fun garden hat
Sprayer nozzle
*Certificate for lawn maintenance
Package items in a planter or large pot with garden tools

Gift of Service

An easy way to spruce up any package or a great idea for the budget conscience is to give the gift of your own service. Use your creativity to make a printable coupon book or visit this site and do them for free: http://www.dltk-cards.com/coupon/.

No time to put together a package? Find the perfect military spouse gift at some of these amazing military spouse supporters:

AttaGirl Gifts
Hero On My Arm
The Patriotic Wife
Jayne Wayne Gear
Kind Notes
Military Handbag
Wire A Cake
Old Glory Soldiers
Proud To Serve Winery

* Feel free to adjust the gift to your budget and/or preferences. Any of the certificates are perfect gifts on their own without the package contents.
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AWN May Newsletter

You can sign up on the sidebar for blog updates, show announcements and newsletters right to your inbox. Or for May's newsletter, just click HERE!

Our downloadable newsletters are in a printable format in order that you may distribute--easily--to your spouse clubs, family groups, your chain of command and concern, and others within your Army Wife Network.

They are two-sided, single sheets, which offer the best resources, URLs, and articles we gather each month.They are created and copyrighted by Army Wife Network, but they are YOURS to personalize and circulate.There are small editable regions for you to update your local network on calendar events and contact data. You can brand it with your name as subtext to the Army Wife Network name.

Send the issues home with the service member, post them on unit bulletin boards, email them to your distro list, or post them to your Web site. Tell us the ways you've found best to get the word out. We can share that as a "hot tip" in our next newsletter.

Welcome to May Army Wives!

The month of May is special to most of us because not only does May include Mother's Day and Armed Forces Day it has a day to celebrate Military Spouse's specifically. Whoo-hoo!!

We recently conducted a survey of nearly 2,000 military spouses on our AWN Facebook page that revealed some interesting findings when it comes to celebrating and appreciating the military spouse. Participants were asked to vote on (or add) their favorite item that would be included in a "military spouse appreciation package".

As expected, many voted for the package to include their husband. And even though I know that there are hundreds of USPS Flat Rate boxes out there, I'm pretty sure that's not possible. What wasn't expected was the level of practicality of the choices the spouses included. An overwhelming number of spouses chose a day at the spa. Other ideas followed; help with house cleaning, childcare, dinner, help with their automobiles, and of course lawn care.

We've put some very creative care package ideas together just for you, military spouse. So be sure to check them out and pass them on (hint-hint).

We have a wonderful line up of guests and information ready for you on our radio show this month.

May 2 - Helen Latimer, author of "The Plan"
joins us to share with us how to ensure our lives are
filled with wellness, satisfaction, and peace.

May 9 - We are celebrating Mother's Day
with an interview with a "real life" Army mom.

May 16 - Dr Christina is going to teach us
101 ways to chill out in 10 minutes (Who can't use that?).

 
May 23 - We're celebrating
with the "newly crowned" Military Spouse Magazine
Military Spouse of the Year 2011.


 
May 30 - We're wrapping up the month
with Wayne Perry (the Army wife "DUDE")
and a discussion from the male perspective.


 
Join us at 8pm EST every Monday night! We will continue to bring you
expert advice columns
, care package ideas, newbie resources, Field Problems(TM) answers, and up to date military related information through all of our outlets. So be sure to stop by the main page, the blog, as well as the Facebook page this week and check it out!


Your Lipstick 6,
Tara Crooks
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Monday, May 02, 2011

AWTR Show 313: The Plan


Presents Army Wife Talk Radio

AWTR Show 312=3: Week of May 2, 2011

Join the AWN team this week on Army Wife Talk Radio for a conversation with Helen Latimer. Helen is a coauthor of the book “The Plan”. “The Plan” is a book about making a plan for your life. Ensure a life filled with wellness, satisfaction, and peace.

Resource of the Week: USO

We’ll see you in LIVE CHAT starting at 8pm Eastern.
Visit Army Wife Network and Loving A Soldier Blog
Click here to download the MP3
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Sunday, May 01, 2011

History is made: Presidential Remarks on Osama Bin Laden

THE WHITE HOUSE

Office of the Press Secretary
________________________________________________________________

For Immediate Release May 1, 2011
REMARKS BY THE PRESIDENT

ON OSAMA BIN LADEN

East Room

11:35 P.M. EDT

THE PRESIDENT: Good evening. Tonight, I can report to the American people and to the world that the United States has conducted an operation that killed Osama bin Laden, the leader of al Qaeda, and a terrorist who’s responsible for the murder of thousands of innocent men, women, and children.

It was nearly 10 years ago that a bright September day was darkened by the worst attack on the American people in our history. The images of 9/11 are seared into our national memory -- hijacked planes cutting through a cloudless September sky; the Twin Towers collapsing to the ground; black smoke billowing up from the Pentagon; the wreckage of Flight 93 in Shanksville, Pennsylvania, where the actions of heroic citizens saved even more heartbreak and destruction.

And yet we know that the worst images are those that were unseen to the world. The empty seat at the dinner table. Children who were forced to grow up without their mother or their father. Parents who would never know the feeling of their child’s embrace. Nearly 3,000 citizens taken from us, leaving a gaping hole in our hearts.

On September 11, 2001, in our time of grief, the American people came together. We offered our neighbors a hand, and we offered the wounded our blood. We reaffirmed our ties to each other, and our love of community and country. On that day, no matter where we came from, what God we prayed to, or what race or ethnicity we were, we were united as one American family.

We were also united in our resolve to protect our nation and to bring those who committed this vicious attack to justice. We quickly learned that the 9/11 attacks were carried out by al Qaeda -- an organization headed by Osama bin Laden, which had openly declared war on the United States and was committed to killing innocents in our country and around the globe. And so we went to war against al Qaeda to protect our citizens, our friends, and our allies.

Over the last 10 years, thanks to the tireless and heroic work of our military and our counterterrorism professionals, we’ve made great strides in that effort. We’ve disrupted terrorist attacks and strengthened our homeland defense. In Afghanistan, we removed the Taliban government, which had given bin Laden and al Qaeda safe haven and support. And around the globe, we worked with our friends and allies to capture or kill scores of al Qaeda terrorists, including several who were a part of the 9/11 plot.

Yet Osama bin Laden avoided capture and escaped across the Afghan border into Pakistan. Meanwhile, al Qaeda continued to operate from along that border and operate through its affiliates across the world.

And so shortly after taking office, I directed Leon Panetta, the director of the CIA, to make the killing or capture of bin Laden the top priority of our war against al Qaeda, even as we continued our broader efforts to disrupt, dismantle, and defeat his network.

Then, last August, after years of painstaking work by our intelligence community, I was briefed on a possible lead to bin Laden. It was far from certain, and it took many months to run this thread to ground. I met repeatedly with my national security team as we developed more information about the possibility that we had located bin Laden hiding within a compound deep inside of Pakistan. And finally, last week, I determined that we had enough intelligence to take action, and authorized an operation to get Osama bin Laden and bring him to justice.

Today, at my direction, the United States launched a targeted operation against that compound in Abbottabad, Pakistan. A small team of Americans carried out the operation with extraordinary courage and capability. No Americans were harmed. They took care to avoid civilian casualties. After a firefight, they killed Osama bin Laden and took custody of his body.

For over two decades, bin Laden has been al Qaeda’s leader and symbol, and has continued to plot attacks against our country and our friends and allies. The death of bin Laden marks the most significant achievement to date in our nation’s effort to defeat al Qaeda.

Yet his death does not mark the end of our effort. There’s no doubt that al Qaeda will continue to pursue attacks against us. We must –- and we will -- remain vigilant at home and abroad.

As we do, we must also reaffirm that the United States is not –- and never will be -– at war with Islam. I’ve made clear, just as President Bush did shortly after 9/11, that our war is not against Islam. Bin Laden was not a Muslim leader; he was a mass murderer of Muslims. Indeed, al Qaeda has slaughtered scores of Muslims in many countries, including our own. So his demise should be welcomed by all who believe in peace and human dignity.

Over the years, I’ve repeatedly made clear that we would take action within Pakistan if we knew where bin Laden was. That is what we’ve done. But it’s important to note that our counterterrorism cooperation with Pakistan helped lead us to bin Laden and the compound where he was hiding. Indeed, bin Laden had declared war against Pakistan as well, and ordered attacks against the Pakistani people.

Tonight, I called President Zardari, and my team has also spoken with their Pakistani counterparts. They agree that this is a good and historic day for both of our nations. And going forward, it is essential that Pakistan continue to join us in the fight against al Qaeda and its affiliates.

The American people did not choose this fight. It came to our shores, and started with the senseless slaughter of our citizens. After nearly 10 years of service, struggle, and sacrifice, we know well the costs of war. These efforts weigh on me every time I, as Commander-in-Chief, have to sign a letter to a family that has lost a loved one, or look into the eyes of a service member who’s been gravely wounded.

So Americans understand the costs of war. Yet as a country, we will never tolerate our security being threatened, nor stand idly by when our people have been killed. We will be relentless in defense of our citizens and our friends and allies. We will be true to the values that make us who we are. And on nights like this one, we can say to those families who have lost loved ones to al Qaeda’s terror: Justice has been done.

Tonight, we give thanks to the countless intelligence and counterterrorism professionals who’ve worked tirelessly to achieve this outcome. The American people do not see their work, nor know their names. But tonight, they feel the satisfaction of their work and the result of their pursuit of justice.
We give thanks for the men who carried out this operation, for they exemplify the professionalism, patriotism, and unparalleled courage of those who serve our country. And they are part of a generation that has borne the heaviest share of the burden since that September day.
Finally, let me say to the families who lost loved ones on 9/11 that we have never forgotten your loss, nor wavered in our commitment to see that we do whatever it takes to prevent another attack on our shores.
And tonight, let us think back to the sense of unity that prevailed on 9/11. I know that it has, at times, frayed. Yet today’s achievement is a testament to the greatness of our country and the determination of the American people.
The cause of securing our country is not complete. But tonight, we are once again reminded that America can do whatever we set our mind to. That is the story of our history, whether it’s the pursuit of prosperity for our people, or the struggle for equality for all our citizens; our commitment to stand up for our values abroad, and our sacrifices to make the world a safer place.
Let us remember that we can do these things not just because of wealth or power, but because of who we are: one nation, under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.
Thank you. May God bless you. And may God bless the United States of America.
END 11:44 P.M. EDT
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#milblogcon highlights (pt. 1)

I'm happy to report that my first experience with the Milblog Conference was a great one. This was the Sixth annual, so the AWN team is a little late in coming to the party, but ...better late... than never.

There was so much going on. Military.com did do a great job at making the expert panels informative in a variety of topics. Check out the site for more information and also take a listen to the interview we did with Andi of Military.com's SpouseBUZZ who gave us a preview on Army Wife Talk Radio a few weeks back.

Here are some highlights!
Friday, April 29 Reception and Benefit Concert
I was insistent that this was a "work thing" and David my husband should come with me. So we were kid-free and enjoyed our time with adults. The night had two highlights: 1) the announcement of the Milboggie winners and 2) the Benefit concert. **Having my husband there to meet my "close" online pals (Military Avenue's bloggers and the new USAA military spouse community managers (coming May 20th)) was a personal highlight too!

We have our own list of Featured Blogs on AWN and it's cool that some of those were nominated for this award. None of them won however. There were some that won that sounded very interesting, so you all should check them out. For sure check out the Best Army Blog: Chief Wiggles, Fan Favorite: Ben and Katie, and the Best Reporter Blog: The Unknown Soldiers.

The Benefit concert was an intimate acoustic setting with Mark Wills, USA Cares spokesperson, country music artist, and avid military supporter. The concert benefited USA Cares.

Mark debuted his newest "military" song called Crazy Being Home. There is a site by that same name, which lands on USA Cares' new welcome home and support campaign for combat veterans. Mark has been to see the troops more than five times and it was an honor to be there for this debut.

Listen to the lyrics and you will get a little glimpse into the difficulties and how crazy it is being home after serving in a war zone.


Interestingly enough, we interviewed USA Cares a few years ago.

I feel that was the most exciting part of this weekend, meeting those we have interviewed in the past and have in Army Wife Network's resource database. There are some amazing military supporters out there. I can wait to tell you more, but you'll have to wait until May 4th while I gather my thoughts and check out all the info and resources put out this weekend. Till then...
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