Deployed Servicemembers to Save Money on Credit, Debit Purchases Overseas

Note from Tara: I don't know how with the constant research done by USAA and the support of our families and troops that anyone could bank anywhere else. This is amazing news. They're always looking out for us!

Deployed Servicemembers to Save Money on Credit, Debit Purchases Overseas
USAA bucks industry trend, refuses to pass costs on to military members

SAN ANTONIO, Texas – USAA military members deployed overseas will be reimbursed a foreign transaction fee for MasterCard and Visa credit or debit card purchases made overseas. While MasterCard and Visa will continue to charge USAA these fees, USAA will not pass on the costs to its deployed members.

The new benefit applies to USAA members for up to 12 months from when they notify USAA in advance of deployment to an overseas location. It is in addition to the many products and services USAA provides its members that demonstrate their commitment to serving those who serve our nation.

“Waiving these fees for our service men and women deployed abroad is clearly the right thing to do,” said USAA Bank President David Bohne. “Those on duty around the world, already sacrificing time away from family, friends and the comforts of home, should know that they won’t be further burdened for serving their country when it takes them overseas.”
USAA constantly looks for solutions to help address the unique financial needs of its mobile membership--especially when they’re deployed. Visit usaa.com: USAA / Deployed Member Benefits to learn more about the special auto, homeowners and life insurance, investment, and banking benefits USAA offers to support deployed members and their families.
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About USAA
USAA, a diversified financial services group of companies, is among the leading providers of financial planning, insurance, investments and banking products to members of the U.S. military and their families. For the past three years, BusinessWeek magazine ranked USAA among the top two "Customer Service Champs," highlighting our legendary commitment of providing highly competitive financial products for 6.8 million members. For more information about USAA, or to learn more about membership, visit https://www.usaa.com/inet/ent_logon/Logon.

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Sprayin' away Summer!

Does your post have a spray park? Fort Sill, OK may not have a beach but we have a wonderfully ran MWR Spray Park.

I've decided that this is where you are going to find me this summer. Gettin' my tan on at my local spray park down the road. Sure, I had to have the "moment" with myself about being in a bathing suit in public (I do this every summer for at least the first two times I am seen with my blaringly white legs and cellulite - then I get over myself).

Today we spent just a few hours up there soakin' up the sun and my oldest probably soaked up a little too much but we had an absolute blast. It's just the right size - and get this - FREE!

I do have to admit I got a sunburn and have a few new freckles but at least I am not blaringly white ....(ok that's not true I still am)....I'm pink!

So, if you haven't been to your local post spray park (I know Fort Stewart, GA has one too!) head up there. I cannot guarantee they're all free (I remember a small fee in GA) but they are WELL WORTH the minimal cost (if any). What a great time!

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It's so sad

Today, I've been sitting here at my computer looking at the online newspaper all day. I'm mystified as to how one of the biggest stories in a city can be about a goose (http://news.cincinnati.com/article/20090527/NEWS01/305270020/1055/NEWS/Did+deputy+properly+kill+goose?). Then, as I scrolled through all the news, the last story caught my eye. A local Navy Reservist was killed in a murder-suicide by her husband. Not only was I appalled at the story, but then as I read on, I found out that I know her brother. He is now a Major who is in my husband's unit, a unit that I also used to be in. His wife is a Captain in that unit as well. When the guys were in Iraq last year, about to come home MAJ Walton and his sister got to meet up for awhile and spend some time together, as she had just gotten there. In the tv interview, MAJ Walton said that while his sis was gone, he and his wife tried to help her husband deal with it, but he just got more depressed and fell into alcoholism and started to hate the military. He also told the news that after she returned that he demanded she get out of the military. I just don't understand it. We, as military spouses, deal with deployments on a regular basis. We all know that our spouse has a committment to fulfill. Even as much as I want myself out of the army right now, I know I have a committment to fulfill. Matt told me once - before we got married - that he would NOT marry me if I let myself get U'd out of the Army (in the guard and reserves that means you didn't show and didn't call or anything - it's an unexcused absence - once you get 9 of those (and there are 2 per day) you get kicked out of the Army). He said if I wasn't able to finish the committment I had signed up for, that was just a 6 year committment - then how would he know that I would be committed to a lifetime with him. Ok, so that made sense to me. Now, I am so perplexed as to why this had to happen. I hate it when people shout out that they hate the military. I just DON'T understand it. It's because of the military that everyone in America has freedom. I have to give props the the Grey's Anatomy writers. The season finale when Callie's girlfriend was saying it was awesome that George enlisted and then when Callie finally listened to her reason - man, I wish more of mainstream America would stand up for the military like that. I already loved Grey's Anatomy, but that sure did affirm my liking of that show. Not to mention that the creators of it also created Army Wives. Back to the topic at hand - I just don't get it. When Matt was deployed, I fell into depression - and pretty bad too. With all the horrible thoughts that I had - killing him NEVER came to mind. I don't know, but I guess anyone can snap at anytime? All I know is that my heart is so heavy after reading this story, while my thoughts and prayers go out to her family. http://news.cincinnati.com/article/20090526/NEWS0107/305260031/Navy+was+victim+s+passion

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Army Sisters

Life has been a whirlwind the past few months. Our first PCS, job-searching, settling in to a whole new region of our great nation, volunteering, appointments, meeting new folks, THE WHOLE GAMMET! It often seems like there are not enough hours in the day. I'm not even a Momma yet! Sheesh, I can't imagine! Those of you military spouses who have children are my HEROES. Thank you for your great service!!!

I'm a bit off topic, but let me reign it in. Through all the chaos I have been fortunate to make some of the most incredible friendships! Quickly they have come into my life and I'm forever grateful. I'd like to share with you a bit about each of them. The ones who have truly touch my world in the "lately".

First there is Ms. Sonja. She is a foreign-born spouse that daily amazes me with her love for country (ours and hers). She has an incredible servant heart and she gives and gives and gives. She's also one of the single most talented women I know. She has so many crafts to her skills. I am quite possibly drawn to her the most. She challenges me to think outside of my box, and yet loves me just they way I am. She's my WONDERFUL.

Ms. Gen - This is my silly, fun, creative pal who always loves to DREAM with me. I adore her. She was my best pal long before she married into the "officer spouse" space. She loves me for me and I for her. We just laugh and live to the fullest together. Our favorite things to do involve anything complete exotic to us... foods, entertainment, movies, stores, etc. She's my ROCKSTAR!

Ms. Lisa - Lisa keeps me grounded. She keeps my eye on my FAITH. She keeps me trusting in God and focused. But this girl is the one who CRACKS ME UP! I just laugh and laugh with her! Some of the silliest of sillies! We have a kindred spirit to each other. She always has a spark in her eye and I always know when I'm with her I will learn something profound. She's my ROCK.

Ms. Star - This is my big sister. We can talk about anything in the world. She is constantly encouraging me and at the same time letting me allow my spirit to be what it is and take it's own form. I adore her entire family. They all make my soul-shine. Star is my steady voice, my friend, my companion. She is strength and softness all in one stroke. A beautiful piece of art that inspires me daily. She's my SHOOTING STAR.

It's funny how each can fill a different place in your heart. So different they are. I could go on and on about Carla, Vickie, Tara, Ruth, Jackie, Michelle... I just want to be sure to remind you all to thank the women in your life that inspire you, that grow you up to excellence and lift your spirits. The ones who make you laugh and the ones who let it be okay to cry. After all, in the Army at the end of the day it's our "Army Sisters" who just 'get us'. Thank them, and love them well. Thank you for allowing me to share about my loves. I only wish I had more time to tell you about them all.

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June AWTR Guest Schedule

June 1st: This week on AWTR we’re featuring America’s Family Manager, Kathy Peel here to talk to us about summer survival for busy households. Field Problems Resource of the Week: Parents Zone, The Parenting Minute, AWTR Music, Army Wife Life, and AWTR Mess Hall!

June 8th: This week on AWTR we’re featuring “Talkin’ Travel” with Erica Vest. Field Problems Resource of the Week: WireACake, The Relationship Minute, Real Life Warrior, and AWTR Book Club!

June 15th: This week on AWTR in honor of Father’s Day we’re featuring author Armin Brott and his book “The Military Father”. Field Problems Resource of the Week: Hug A Hero, The Money Minute, AWTR Music, Army Wife Life, and AWTR Post with the Most!

June 22nd: This week on AWTR we’re featuring Maria Murphy of Simply Put Together. Field Problems Resource of the Week: Red Cross, The Newbie Minute, Real Life Warrior, and Household 6!

June 29th: This week on AWTR we’re featuring USAA here to talk to us about disaster preparedness and mobile banking. Field Problems Resource of the Week: Personal Finance Guide for the Military, The Parenting Minute, AWTR Music, Army Wife Life, and AWTR Mess Hall!

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We Honor You....

On this day, take the time to share with your family the stories and sacrifices of the many brave men and women of our Nation. Have a blessed Memorial Day.

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Opening up the Pandora Box

The other day I viewed a segment on AFN about the Big Army is now on Facebook and Twitter. The world is literally at the touch of the button—called the World Wide Web. In light of recent events in my own life, I wanted to share a reminder that even though the internet is an excellent vehicle of vast information—it can also be a deadly weapon and could create more issues/concerns for the military spouse.

Now, at present day we have vFRG, Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, and the like—helps us to stay current at a very personal level with other spouses (mind you that they are a part of your ‘friends’ list). In one given moment you know that Sally is cleaning house, and that Betty is going to the commissary today…

As an FRG key volunteer, I see it as a way of giving up-to-date information; keep in touch with fellow spouses. Let them know that I care what’s happening in their lives. Having other spouses on ‘my friends list’ is having genuine concern for others. It is very upsetting to say that most think this as gossip. If someone states they are having a bad day…I would like to reach out and make a comment that if they need to talk or just a comment of encouragement—that I am supporting my fellow co-horts.

The key factor between all of this is having outstanding, great communication skills. If you cannot communicate what you are trying to say---it’s a make or break deal within a relationship. Especially having online communication, emotions are basically and completely left out of the equation. This lack of emotion can and will have problems.

One comment, one statement, one e-mail can start a wild fire that can never be put out—until it does on its own terms and time. While it’s an excellent source for ‘keeping’ in touch with family and friends, we must understand that it can be used against us for the wrong reasons and we should stay vigilant and mindful of what information we put out.


I have invited and approved ‘friends’ on my friends’ list to people I know within my military life as a spouse—past and present friends. IF you make friends, it is wonderful to keep in touch with them! My own immediate family has moved three times in two years, and so friendships were made and got left behind; but with social groups like Facebook, we are eligible to keep in touch and mentor each other! I love it!

On the flip side, I have also seen some spouses that degrade others via the web—i.e. the military in general, their spouse’s unit/BN, and even other spouses’ within a group for the world to see. NOT GOOD! This rarely is an outcome we want as military spouses. Many times I have seen where rumors started and blown out of cosmic proportions within 1 hour. That is definitely scary. Stupid and petty fights being blown out of proportion that comes to involve the chain of command within a section—in my humble opinion, is a complete waste of military resources.

We are no longer high school attendees. When we post negative things---it reflects on you as a person, your military sponsor, and the Big Army in general. I totally understand that there are times that we don’t understand the reasons why, for example, our spouse is having CQ for the third time this month. Maybe it’s bad management (scheduling gone askew) or maybe your spouse to covering down because the person who was scheduled is presently have a medical crisis within their own family or something similar to that affect. We all have issues, but the way we deal with it---speaks volumes and shows our true character to others.

I am all for rising morale, in this difficult time, as a nation and as a military spouse to our Soldiers and the like. We need to be reminded that community websites like the ones mentioned above are public venues and anyone is open to view them. Online etiquette must be incorporated for our safety and for the morale and wellness of our military communities. Internet is super, but it is impersonal-bottom line. We cannot ‘see, hear, touch, taste, or feel’ what the other person is saying or trying to communicate—majority of the time. This is why emotion icons were programmed. We can read a statement from someone, and completely misconstrue the meaning behind the comment/statement made. When this happens, the Pandora box opens up WIDE. Before we make a comment, or send out that email—we must review what “we” want to say and make sure our message is clear and concise.

Etiquette, especially on-line, is something that is becoming extinct. I just wanted to comment on this hot topic, because it’s a subject that I feel make or breaks the morale of troops involved and/or spouses within a certain company or at higher levels. I believe our Soldiers deserve that much—to be supportive of their jobs and to help our spouses in any way possible. Being a military spouse, especially one that is overseas, is hard. But as the saying goes, “Home is where the heart is.” So, we should make the best of it and be supportive—it’s the only way to survive, to flourish…

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A Memorial Day Salute to…

A Memorial Day Salute… to two Veteran’s Colonel Hargraves and Major Dodd

Today…I want to take the time to thank the following military men who made a difference in my Life.

When I was in high school like so many students…I was in Army Junior-ROTC. I thought it would be neat way to learn about the Army…even if I had no aspiration to join the Army…still I had a lot of respect for all it could offer to those who took the opportunity. When I first entered the class…it was easy to see I was one of the first students to arrive. For some of my fellow classmates it was a shock to find me there…I was known for everything else but this. They were shocked that I would give up one day of fashion to wear that green uniform! (lol) For Major Dodd it seemed very natural to see me walk into his classroom….from the 1st day of class he called me “Action Jackson”.

He would say “Tara if you work hard and challenge yourself…you can and will make a difference in society…but it is up to you to rise to the challenge!” I would just look at him and smile…then I would go home and study hard. This man could sound just like my father did just about every day! Maybe that is the reason why I enjoyed his class and hearing his stories about the military and leadership. He enjoyed telling us about how the Army made a big difference in his life and how it took him all over the world…and introduced him to so many cultures.


One day he brought this book to me just before class. It was a very significant book and I could tell it was no easy read. Major Dodd said “Tara...you have a beautiful history…I know because I have watched it unfold and read about some of it in this book…I want you to read it!”…so I took the book and smiled “Thanks…Major Dodd…you and my Dad really have a so much in common…both of you keep sharing books with me!” I will never forget Major Dodd…because he was a great teacher who more than taught this Army Junior-ROTC class. He actually cared about his students and wanted to see each of us achieve our highest potential!


I will never forget the day I walked into Banneker Hall for my 1st science class in college. I was a bit nervous and kind of lost…when this very distinguished older gentleman came walking down the hall. He must have noticed how lost I was…so he walked up to me and said “Hello young lady…can I help you find your way?” Of course I said yes…after getting directions to class I smiled and rushed to class.

Later that day I ask my sister about the very kind gentleman in Banneker Hall…she smiled and knew just who I was talking about (she was a chemistry major…so she spent most of her time in that building). She told me his name was Colonel Hargraves and everyone respects him. The interesting thing was he did not have to be “Difficult” with students to get their respect. It was his very kind and confident manner that caused so many students to respect him and seek him out for counsel on important decisions.

After meeting Colonel Hargraves I never forgot him or his name and he always called me Miss J…I always felt important around him. My junior year in college I was elected to be Miss College of Arts and Sciences…this honor was most often given to seniors…so it was pretty big when I won the honor. When my family came up to my school for the coronation…they met Colonel Hargraves while they were on campus helping with my parade float decorations. My parents told me the Colonel and his beautiful wife walked up to them…because they wanted them to know how proud they were of my hard work. Wow…looking back on this makes me smile…because at a fragile time in my personal development… God truly blessed me with great mentors who really cared about my personal development.

Thank You to Colonel Hargraves and Major Dodd!!!!

Wishing You the Best,
Tara JW

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Sound the Alarm for Our Veterans

"Military Family Network Urges America: "Sound the Alarm for Our
Veterans!"
Join in America's National Moment of Remembrance by Setting Your Cell
Phone Alarm for 3PM Local Time on Memorial Day, May 25th, 2009

Memorial Day is right around the corner. You're probably looking forward
to a great holiday weekend - maybe a small get-away, a picnic, parade, the
opening of the community pool or just the day off from work so that you
can plant your summer garden or get that overstuffed garaged cleaned out.
And, Memorial Day tells us that summer is almost here with all of its
pleasantries and treasures.

But Memorial Day isn't just about telling what's to come - it's also
about asking what has been. And in this asking, we are urged to reverently
recall our fallen service members and not to forget the countless sacrifices
made on behalf of all Americans since the Revolutionary War to present.
Indeed, this is a somber moment of tribute, honor and remembrance; but, it is
also a moment of tremendous pride, joy and gratitude, to know that these men and
women believed so fervently in our nation and its promises of freedom,
liberty and justice, that they offered up their lives to give us this
priceless gift. To take the present to remember the past demonstrates
our common heritage and reveals the strength and fortitude of our ongoing
commitment to America's democracy: of the people, for the people, by the
people. We are the custodians of their gift to us. It is fitting and
proper that we share this moment with our children so that we, and future
generations, remain connected to the benefactors that bestowed these
privileges upon us.

The National Moment of Remembrance (http://www.remember.gov/) is at 3PM
local time on Memorial Day. It urges you to set aside a quiet moment of
reflection so that "no ravages of time, testify to the present or to the
coming generations that we have forgotten as a people the cost of a free
and undivided republic."
(Maj. General John A. Logan,http://www1.va.gov/opa/speceven/memday/)

So, in the spirit of unity and remembrance, The Military Family Network
(http://www.militaryfamilynetwork.com) is asking you to set your cell
phone alarm to 3PM local time to join America in honoring her deceased
defenders,their widows and children; today's service members providing security and
protection to America, and their families who love and support them with
unyielding devotion at great costs to themselves.

This is what Memorial Day asks of you.

Set Those Cell Phone Alarms for 3PM!

PLEASE SHARE THIS TO EVERYONE YOU KNOW SO THAT THEY CAN JOIN IN THIS
NATIONAL MOMENT OF REMEMBRANCE. TO LEARN MORE, VISIT
http://militaryfamilynetwork.com/3pm_alarm.html.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEAVE A COMMENT SUPPORTING MILITARY SERVICE MEMBERS,
VETERANS AND FAMILIES, PLEASE VISIT MILITARY FAMILY NETWORK's FACEBOOK
PAGE AT: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Military-Family-Network/81835529444

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USAA Presents What's On Your Mind

USAA believes everyone deserves free financial advice right now – and is doing something about it.

The association, which is known by its members for providing free financial advice, has created a new online community to help the millions of Americans struggling to make financial decisions in today’s economy. What's On Your Mind brings together some of the Internet’s brightest money management experts who have one goal – to help people get the answers they need to their toughest financial questions. The open forum also connects people with others who are facing the same money issues in their everyday lives. There’s no selling of any kind on the site – just real people having real discussions and benefitting from free expert advice.

We hope that you’ll join the conversation by visiting the site at http://www.whatsonyourmind.com to start a discussion, vote on topics and view answers. You’ll also see updates on the home page regarding where USAA’s next public town hall will be, and we encourage you to come to one near you to talk with people about how they’re dealing with their financial challenges and where they’re turning for help.

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Bravo TV looking for Military Wives!

I'm a casting producer with Bravo, and am currently seeking Army, Navy, Air Force and Marine Wives for season 3 of one of our hit shows! We are set to shoot for one day on June 3rd 2009, in the Los Angeles area.

The episode is going to be dedicated to the men who are fighting for our freedom as well as their wives. We will be choosing 7-10 women to come to the set and get their hair and makeup done to have their look transformed so they can send their husband a video message overseas. We will provide wardrobe, styling, makeup, and do everything we can to facilitate the wives sending their deserving husbands a sweet message and making their day!

If you know anyone who would like to apply to be a part of this feel good episdoe, please have them send a short bio, a photo of themselves and their husband, as well as their contact info to:
bravotvcasting@gmail.com and in the subject line please put: Military Wife.

My contact details follow - feel free to contact me with any questions, and please, please forward this out to anyone you know who would be interested!!! Thanks so much and have an amazing day!

All the best,

-Goloka Bolte
Casting Producer
Bravo TV / Reveille Studios
818.755.0142 x 127
bravotvcasting@gmail.com

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AWL: The Other Woman

This edition of Army Wife Life discussion is brought to you in partnership with Lucky Army Wives! (www.LuckyArmyWives.com)

Please leave your answers to the questions below by commenting on this post. Listen for Tara & Star's answers on Show 214: Week of May 18, 2009 using our AWTR Player to the left!

Excerpt blog post:

Hilary Swank (aka Ms. Gruwell) in Freedom Writers – Profoundly changes the lives of her students (and her own) while maintaining her serenity, sense of humor, and working three jobs.

Anne Hathaway – Beautiful, fun clothing as Andrea "Andy" Sachs in The Devil Wears Prada; Hip, dramatic clothing (all that patent leather!) as Agent 99 in Get Smart. Not that I’d really have anywhere to wear any of it – although, some Agent 99 patent leather would definitely liven up the next Hood Howdy!

Demi Moore (aka Lt. Jordan O'Neil) in GI Jane – Replaying the one-arm push-up scene a million times hasn’t enabled me to replicate her form.

Jennifer Lopez (aka Mary Fiore) in The Wedding Planner - I don’t recall “Wedding Planner for the Rich, Famous, and Gorgeous” as a possible degree option when signing up for classes my freshman year at college. But I know I could do it! Spend other people’s money on beautiful flowers? Check. Flirt with grooms like Matthew McConaughey? Check. Look cool wearing a wireless headset? Check.

Julia Roberts (aka Julianne Potter) in My Best Friend’s Wedding – The chain-smoking, cargo-pants wearing, creatively conniving, gay-friend involving Julianne Potter makes me feel oh-so-much-better about those creepy crush notes I snuck into the high school football quarterback’s locker.

Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman (aka Sally and Gillian) in Practical Magic – Dinner at 6PM? Done! Yard of the Month (and Year)? Done! Sparkling House? Done! FRG Meeting a Bit Boring?......

Tea Loni (aka Deborah Clasky) in Spanglish – She is me. Ugh.
Julia Roberts – Steel Magnolias, Erin Brokovich, Mona Lisa Smiles, Pretty Woman, Ocean’s Eleven, etc.

Angelina Jolie (aka Laura Croft) in the Tomb Raider series– The gadgets; the house; the boats, cars, four-wheelers; the body; the hair; the adventures! (But not the white pantsuit……….).

That brings us to our talking points tonight! There are lots of women in our lives - the Commander's wife, the FRG leader, your Social Club chairperson, and even your neighbors most likely play important roles in your "Fort Hollywood" drama – we are lucky, blessed and cursed all at the same time!

Discussion Point 1: Whose closet would you most like to raid post movie production?

Discussion Point 2: Consider the movie "Practical Magic" - and tell us whose magical powers you would like to steal...

Discussion Point 3: The woman who makes Pearl want to work out? Lara Croft Tomb Raider's Angelina Jolie! Who inspires you?

Discussion Point 4: Which movie character do you think your best friend would say you most resemble?

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Rest....finally

Classes are over. Finals are over. The wedding is over. Even the vacation ( our honeymoon)

in Savannah is over. Where has time gone? We have been SO busy for the last 2 years or so, that for a change I have some time where I don't have to do anything or be anywhere or think about anything or read a schoolbook! Matt and I had SO much fun on our honeymoon in Savannah, but we also crammed so much into 5 days. The best part of all was getting to have dinner with Star and Leah as well as their families! It was awesome! Life in general has been so hectic and crazy that we haven't had a chance to breathe. I am looking forward to a summer of not working. I have my AT for the Army during the first couple weeks of June and so I have the rest of the summer to get ready for student teaching and just kind of relaxing. This past year has been one of ups and downs. Matt came home about a year ago. I got to study in Austria for a month. I then came home and went to AT for about a month. Then, school started and I had to put so much time and energy into my recital, only for it to be postponed because I got sick. Then, right after Christmas, it was back to working hard on my recital on top of taking 19 credit hours! ACK! Now, I have made it through spending almost an entire week with my mom and then the rest of my family joined us a couple days before the wedding. My brother did get to make it in for the wedding and Matt and I had a great vacation. I certainly do hope that life will get to slow down, just a little. We did enjoy the slow pace of Savannah - too bad it's not like that where we live.

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Will There Be a Warning Bell?

I read somewhere recently that everyone has a breaking point, a point at which they succumb to excess stress in their life. My question is whether or not there will be a warning bell, some signal before my brain snaps like a tooth pick and I totally lose it.

PCSing is an experience. For some reason, even though this is our seventh move, I am so stressed out! Maybe because it is our first four kid move. I keep thinking to myself as I try to clean and organize things that if I had time to do this stuff, it would be done already.

Of course I am sick, and the kids have some weird eye funk. So if you hear some screaming off in the distance, it is probably me, I am just hoping there is a warning bell.

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Moving Hint

The morning that the packers arrive, make sure that all of your children have a pair of matching shoes on their feet. That way you will know that everyone has at least one pair of shoes.

If you do not do this you will run the risk of having to take one of your children to the store wearing slippers or mismatched shoes to buy a new pair.

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Operation Rest and Relax - A Blessing!

I can not believe it has taken me so long to blog about our experience, but the wheel of life keeps on turning. It's been about 10 days that we've been home...

My husband and I are stationed in the beautiful state of Georgia and in these parts they have an incredible progam for recently home from deployment military families called OPERATION R&R-LINK. Operation R&R is a non-profit organization designed to provide our service men and women an opportunity to reconnect with their spouses and children upon their return from Iraq or Afghanistan.

Property owners, represented by many property management companies, are donating their homes and villas on Hilton Head Island, SC for this purpose.

All of this is to ensure that our military families have a chance to spend some time away from their everyday lives to strengthen relationships that have been strained due to long separations and extreme circumstances.

The trip was magical. This was the first time since homecoming that we were able to be truly alone. My husband surprised me with many moonlit walks on the beach, and really openned up about all the things on his mind. I think we communicate very well, but this was a whole new level. We spent a slow paced week in the sun enjoying life. The community is absolutely amazing. From our front desk help, to servers in our restaurant, to our sponsors and our greeters, the whole team is fantastic! They give to military families free gifts and awesome discounts. Some examples are 50% of meals, or FREE Dolphin cruises. The list goes on and on. One of our absolute favorites was the Hilton Head Comedy Club. We laughed and laughed and still share the jokes since being home. Our time on the beautiful beaches sun bathing and just listening to the waves crash ashore is precious. I could go on and on about the generosity of this program. Thank you Operation R&R, you have given us the blessing of a lifetime! We truly appreciate it! It was just magic...

I promise to share some photos soon :)

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This Memorial Day - Respecting The Red,White, & Blue

Respecting the Red, White, & Blue© Tara Crooks

It is a time for patriotism. As a military spouse, I am thrilled to see pride in our country. Everywhere you turn you see bumper stickers, yellow ribbons, and flags. Our national symbol, an American flag, we fly them, but do we know how to properly take care of our flags? Do we know how and when to display them?

Believe it or not there are flag laws. The laws relating to the flag of the United States of America are found in detail in the United States Code. Title 4, Chapter 1 pertains to the flag; Title 18, Chapter 33, Section 700 regards criminal penalties for flag desecration; Title 36, Chapter 3 pertains to patriotic customs and observances. These laws were supplemented by Executive Orders and Presidential Proclamations. These orders govern the proper use, display, care, and many other issues regarding the flag.

There are no penalties for improper use or display of the flag. The Flag Code is intended as a guide to be followed on a purely voluntary basis to insure proper respect for the flag. However, especially in times of showing patriotism one might want to know the code in order to not violate it in their display of their pride.


There is an extensive list of flag etiquette; however most does not apply to the average citizen’s every day use of the flag. Below you’ll find some reminders and tips to use for your flag presentation and recognition.

The Pledge of Allegiance to the Flag: "I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.” should be rendered by standing at attention facing the flag with the right hand over the heart. When not in uniform men should remove any non-religious headdress with their right hand and hold it at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart. Persons in uniform should remain silent, face the flag, and render the military salute.

It is the universal custom to display the flag only from sunrise to sunset on buildings and on stationary flagstaffs in the open. However, when a patriotic effect is desired, the flag may be displayed twenty-four hours a day if properly illuminated during the hours of darkness.

The flag should not be displayed on days when the weather is inclement, except when an all-weather flag is displayed.

The flag should be displayed daily on or near the main administration building of every public institution.

The flag should be displayed in or near every polling place on election days.

The flag should be displayed during school days in or near every schoolhouse.

The flag should be displayed on all days, especially on

• New Year’s Day
• Inauguration Day
• Martin Luther King Jr’s Birthday
• Lincoln’s Birthday
• Washington’s Birthday
• Easter Sunday
• Mother’s Day
• Father’s Day
• Armed Forces Day
• Memorial Day
• Flag Day
• Independence Day
• Labor Day
• Constitution Day
• Columbus Day
• Navy Day
• Veterans Day
• Thanksgiving Day
• Christmas Day
• State Holidays

When displaying your flag from your car, the staff shall be fixed firmly to the chassis or clamped to the right fender.

When a flag is hung in a window, place the blue union in the upper left, as viewed from the street.

No disrespect should be shown to the flag of the United States of America; the flag should not be dipped to any person or thing. Regimental colors, State flags, and organization or institutional flags are to be dipped as a mark of honor.

Unfortunately, it is very common to find flag respect violations. Below are a few gentle reminders.

The flag should never touch anything beneath it, such as the ground, the floor, water, or merchandise.

The flag should never be used as wearing apparel, bedding, or drapery. It should never be festooned, drawn back, nor up, in folds, but always allowed to fall free. Bunting of blue, white, and red, always arranged with the blue above, the white in the middle, and the red below, should be used for covering a speaker's desk, draping the front of the platform, and for decoration in general.

The flag should never have placed upon it, nor on any part of it, nor attached to it any mark, insignia, letter, word, figure, design, picture, or drawing of any nature.
Most flags sold nowadays are all-weather flags (refer to the packaging). These are permitted to fly during inclement weather, according to the Flag Code.

Care of your flag is also important. If the flag has been dirtied, you should clean it by hand with a mild soap solution and dry it well before returning it to use. If a flag is torn, it can be repaired, preferably by a professional or someone skilled in mending. If it is faded or tattered beyond repair, or dirty beyond cleaning, then it is time to replace the flag. The flag, when it is in such condition that it is no longer a fitting emblem for display, should be destroyed in a dignified way, preferably by burning.

To see the complete flag code visit: http://uscode.house.gov/download/download.shtml

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Fish out of water...

I'm living in an army environment for a year now as well as in the United States of America (until now I never met a Swiss... granted there are only 7 Million of us).
The reason for living abroad and living as an U.S. Army wife is my husband and my husband only.
I never had a desire to leave my country and live somewhere else(besides traveling of course) as there is nothing to complain about. Switzerland has one of the lowest rates of criminality, offers great (and cheap!) education, has a stable economy, high standards in regards of ecology etc. A great country to live in!

But sometime when you are so used to what you have, it's hard to realize it. I guess, that happened to me too.

When I first came to the States, I felt a little bit (actually a big bit) like a fish out of water. Eventhough the standards and values aren't as different - they are!

The thing that impressed me (and probably changed my way of thinking a bit) most was that natural pride from Americans towards their country, people, standards and values.

To see the American Flag ("The flag") hanging in front of every second house - illuminated, to get to know the customs of how to salute/honor the flag, to raise the flag, to lower the flag etc. (thank you AFTB), to see people sing the national anthem before every footballgame, to hear the phrase "good bless America" after every speach of a politician, to see people regulary wearing T-shirts with the stars and strips banner, ... and just to hear people say things like, "we are Americans and we are the Best"... but who (awkwardly to me)don't have a passport and never left the U.S. ...

This "natural pride" for the country is something almost unknown to me. It's not natural in my/our mentality to display my/our pride for my/our country like that.
We are a lot more discrete about that - and for my part, I wasn't especially proud of being a Swiss - I honestly just happen to be Swiss because I was born/raised there and my mom is Swiss.

Nevertheless, now that I'm confronted with that "american pride" (probably evenmoreso through the Army enironment), I my mindset changed a little bit... I started to be proud, proud of my country, proud of the values, proud to be Swiss.
I learned that abroad - Isn't that weird?!

Be openminded and take whatever comes!

I like America, but I think it's true, .... you will always remember where you come from.


PS: I don't want to offend anyone and I hope my point came accross that - sometimes you got to go abroad to realize - and sometimes you realize things you never spent a thought on before you left.

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Spicy Newbie

I remember my first Hail and Farewell, I was so nervous. I had no idea what to wear or what to expect. Fast forward almost ten years, and here I am, I get "it" now, I am an Army Wife I have moved seven times. My husband has deployed twice and we are getting ready for a third. I feel spicy (I prefer this to seasoned.)

Yesterday I went to a conference where I was surrounded by people who are not in the military. There wasn't a single uniform and I kept looking at the gentlemen thinking that they needed hair cuts. It was a conference for people starting out in a career, and suddenly I was a newbie again, a fish out of water. I'd forgotten what it felt like to not know how to get information, or who to talk to. Ask me any military question and I will know exactly who to ask if I don't know the answer myself. I am a mentor and I have mentors. This new career thing on the other hand is very daunting. I feel like I am pushing a wheel barrel with rope handles. I don't have any answers, I don't even know the questions yet.

For all the Army Newbies out there, know that even the most seasoned spouse started out where you are now. You will gain experience and knowledge whether you try to or not. Time passes quickly and life happens fast.

I know that I will gain knowledge in my new career, but for now it is pretty overwhelming. It is definitely humbling for a spicy spouse to be a newbie again.

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Mandatory Fun - Why Attending Army Social Functions Can Help You

Mandatory Fun” - Why Attending Army Social Functions Can Help You
© 2006 Tara Crooks

Army life is full of social functions. Every time you turn around you’ve got an invitation to a family readiness group meeting, a coffee, or a hail and farewell. In our household, social functions are comically referred to as “mandatory fun”. It’s no surprise to a soldier that they have to attend; the Army essentially “owns” their time. So they attend, without fail, even if they have to scurry out the back the minute they sign the attendance roster.

The general feeling amongst spouses is that social functions are not something they really can’t wait to attend. Most spouses do end up attending out of obligation or duty. Sadly, their initial attendance isn’t out of excitement. However, most will agree once they attend they do have an enjoyable time. There are several different reasons you might want to attend such functions, and having fun is just the icing on the cake.

The biggest reason for spouses to attend functions is to meet other spouses. You need a social structure of support. We’re all in the same boat. Alma Powell once quoted, “As wives, if we do not know one another, how will we be able to support one another, and stand together in times of need?” How true that rings to me. If you’ve ever been through a deployment, ever moved to a new duty station, or simply ever signed a marriage certificate with a soldier, you know what it means to have that support in your corner. This is an invaluable way to network. Who knows you might end up meeting your best friend.

As an Army wife you are always hearing about the guys at work. You hear about SGT Smith, and LTC Johnson. You hear about the current field problem and the work in the motor pool. Social functions are a way for you to put faces with names. They are also a way for you to learn the Unit Command. Why would you want to know them, you ask? This is something you’ll really be glad you did for several reasons. Most importantly, you will always know what not to blurt out after having a few drinks, because you’ll know who’s coming toward you, or better yet, you’ll know when to stop someone else from the same embarrassing moment when they have someone coming up behind them! However comical that might seem, you know it happens. On a serious note though, you’ll know the Command. God forbid anything ever happen to your soldier, or you ever need anything while he is away, you’ll know who they are and who to call. It never hurts that they’ll know who you are as well. This knowledge can do nothing but help you in the long run.

You will learn at each function more and more about the Command Climate. What is Command Climate? It’s the tempo, personality, and general overall feeling of the Command. Sometimes you get an upbeat Commander, sometimes you get an uptight Commander. Sometimes you get an organizational micro-manager, and sometimes you get the class clown. You need to know these tendencies so you can adjust how you will relate your personality to the Command.

Not to emphasize this least because it is certainly one of the most important; social functions can be an information resource. I believe President Reagan coined it the “trickle-down” theory. This is what happens at some social functions. Information is “trickled-down” to the families from the top. Not to say we are the bottom, we all know we are the glue that holds the whole outstanding system together! Unfortunately enough, and definitely not a big SURPRISE to us, we are NOT in control. Therefore, usually, we are the last ones to receive official information. Your lack of attendance will mean you will find out what is going on in the Unit through your soldier. Do I really need to go there?

Attending the function gives you, the spouse, an opportunity to ask questions. There are just some questions you might feel the need to ask yourself, or maybe your soldier just wouldn’t ever ask them for you. Your attendance at the function affords you the opportunity to have your question(s) answered straight from the “horses mouth”, so to speak. I always say if you don’t ask, you’ll never know. If you don’t let the Command know what you need, or express yourself to them, how will they ever know how to change or better the organization? Please do not read this as you need to take this opportunity to give your Command “a piece of your mind”. Civilization need not be a new concept. You should approach this as a networking opportunity in which you can better yourself, your family, and the organization by being a positive influence and communicator.

In addition to being an information resource, the function might also provide Army resources and volunteer opportunities that are available on your installation. There are tons of resources and opportunities available on even the smallest Army post. Most people do not know that they even exist. If you think about it, how does the Army market their programs? It’s not with colorful home-delivered flyers, personal phone calls, or fancy marketing strategies. Inevitably, they do it through social functions and other existing Army programs. I rest my case.

Coffees, Hail and Farewells, FRG meetings, Training sessions, Unit Organizational Days, Fundraisers, Briefings, and even Formal Balls are all places where you learn so much about the Unit and the Army’s Traditions and Values. It gives you a sense of pride and accomplishment to be part of something bigger than yourself.

Let us not forget the two special reasons to attend; time with your soldier, and time away from the kids. Laugh if you will, but we need our time too. Grab a babysitter, go have some grown-up time, scurry away at your leisure, and go take an extra two hours or so with your husband. You deserve it. Oh, and don’t forget, these functions can be fun!

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Entering a new chapter in my “Loving a Soldier” life.

Starting tomorrow not only will I be an Army Wife, I’ll be joining the ranks of Army Mom as well. My son is leaving for Basic Training tomorrow morning. I thought I’d take this opportunity on Mother’s Day to start my blog about this adventure. As our children start a new journey in their life, I think it’s normal to feel a little nervous, both for them and us. I have plenty of friends who have their son or daughter in the military, most of them has said, “it is different to have a child instead of a husband serve”, I guess I’m about to find out just how different it is. I’m very proud of my son as he begins this challenge, it will be fun for me to blog about this and let everyone know what and how he’s doing over the next 10 weeks. I’d like to wish all the Army Mom’s a special Happy Mother’s Day!!

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Disney's A Christmas Carol - FREE!!!!!!!!

I just got this in my email the other day and I had to pass it along and share it! (Disney Christmas Carol - Click Here! ) I'm a huge ANYTHING DISNEY fan, and this event is FREE and nation-wide. I hope you and your family can attend and have fun! If you go share with us, we'd love to know how your experience was. Share a note and photos at our message boards at www.armywifenetwork.com

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This is Great!

This is really Great!
Tara JW


President Issues Military Spouse Day Proclamation
American Forces Press Service

WASHINGTON, May 8, 2009 - President Barack Obama signed and issued a proclamation today designating the day as Military Spouse Day.

Here is the presidential proclamation:

"Military spouses share the sacrifices of service with our Nation's men and women in uniform. As members of the Armed Forces serve in the United States and across the world, military spouses also serve our Nation.

"When a servicemember goes to war, we know their spouse also shares in that sacrifice. I am inspired by their commitment to family and our Nation, and on Military Spouse Day, we honor these individuals for their contributions.

"Wives and husbands of servicemembers display an uncommon courage and strength as they steadfastly support their spouses during long and arduous deployments. While they endure separations that are filled with worry and anxiety, they face unique stresses. Foremost is the concern about the safety and well-being of deployed loved ones, but there are many other challenges. From managing household finances to comforting children impacted by a military parent's absence, military spouses take on the burdens of maintaining families largely on their own.

"This task is complicated even more as spouses work to maintain careers and a sense of community while moving to new duty stations around the country and the world.

"Despite these hardships, military spouses are an inexhaustible source of strength for our military families and donate their time generously to local communities. Military spouses offer the love and encouragement that help servicemembers endure the challenges of serving our Nation.

"Military spouses support one another as friends and mentors. They serve in family readiness groups to keep fellow spouses informed and to provide mutual support. They contribute as volunteers to improve neighborhoods, military installations, and communities. These contributions strengthen both our Nation's character and its security.

"All Americans should express appreciation for military spouses and let them know they are not alone. To help those who need it, friends, co-workers, and neighbors can offer to help with the burden of daily tasks and thus give military spouses more time for themselves and their families. To assist spouses who are coping with the absence of a loved one, individuals can listen and offer their counsel. Americans can also volunteer through the many organizations that provide assistance to military families.

"Our Nation maintains a sacred trust with every individual who serves. My Administration is committed to showing our Nation's gratitude for them by honoring our obligations to their families.

"NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim May 8, 2009, as Military Spouse Day. I call upon the people of the United States to honor military spouses with appropriate ceremonies and activities today and in the future.

"IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this eighth day of May, in the year of our Lord two thousand nine, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-third."

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Two Mil Spouses Thank USAA! (Letter to CEO)

We sent this to Major Gen. Robles himself but we wanted to share with the world how wonderful USAA is and how thankful we are that they are a part of our AWN Team.

Major Gen. Robles:

Crooks & Henderson here. Today, on Military Spouse Appreciation Day, we are writing to return thanks to USAA for all the ways they appreciate military spouses.

We’ve both been members for over 12 years and so our history surpasses what you know of our relationship with just Mike Kelly and your post Military Affair teams.

We have been long time fans. The services of USAA are spot on in terms of WHAT we need and the QUALITY we need as military spouses. We won’t enumerate to you all the ways, but we would like you to know that we are constantly telling our Network to check out your Deposit at Home, Pre-Deployment kits, their own member numbers, Ask June, your #1 Customer Service and military spouse employment opportunities. Without fail, we have been dealt with courteously, professionally, and timely from wherever the Army has taken us.

And we’re make sure to tell anyone who will listen the benefits we possess with our USAA membership.

To speak of our relationship as benefactors of USAA’s sponsorship for our Web site, Talk Radio show, our newsletter, and our Field Exercises, we just want to say what an exhilarating time this past few years has been.

From the beginnings of Army Wife Talk Radio (now Army Wife Network) and the beginnings and now recurring Field Exercises™, we have been supported by some outstanding USAA staff. Mike Kelly is top-notch and so fun to watch as he swoops into location. He says Tara’s “hair is on fire”, but he (in representing USAA) comes in makes us happy, makes 300 spouses happy, makes the post staff happy, does his dealings with PAO all with a smile and compassionate ear for any USAA customer who wants to pick his brain for help with any issue.

And Mike isn’t the only one. We have yet to meet a USAA staffer we didn’t love. We should also mention the amazing John Hancock, June Walbert (don’t ever let that one go!), JJ Montenero, Bob Hall (we absolutely fell in love), Chris Talley, Michelle Cook, Liza Correa, Audrey and Jason Tarter, Laurel Bragg, Greg Pratt, Fiona English, John DiPero, and so many more USAA staffers we have had the joy of spending time with throughout the years.

Thank you and your team so much for what you do to support us and military spouses everywhere!

You are truly an amazing organization.

Sincerely,
Tara Crooks & Starlett Henderson
Aka Army Wife Network

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Part 2 Marriage is a complex science

Hello my fellow Military Spouses!

After thinking about my initial post Marriage is a complex science...on May 4, 2009…I decided to research additional resources to support those coping with difficulties in this area. Remember asking for help doesn’t make you weak…in fact it shows just how strong you truly are!


•Marriage Mentoring Twelve Conversations http://www.12conversations.com/military_marriage_mentoring

•Non-Profits Provide Veterans and Their Families with Free Services
Read more: http://post-traumatic-stress-disorder.suite101.com/article.cfm/free_counseling_available_to_veterans_of_iraq#ixzz0EwSnuqSm&B

•The Murray Grey Foundation http://www.themurraygreyfoundation.org/

•Family Support Services http://www.military.com/benefits/resources/family-support/family-support-services

•The Military Family Network http://www.emilitary.org/links.php

•National Military Family Association http://www.nmfa.org/site/PageServer?pagename=homepage

All in all take a break today and have a very relaxing Military Spouse APPRECIATION Day!

Wishing you the very best!
Tara JW

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52 Ways To Say Thank You To Your Volunteers

Originally posted a military.com

52 Ways To Say Thank You To Your Volunteers

The Army is no stranger to the volunteer workforce. At some point in your Army “career” you either volunteer or get “volun-told,” as I like to call it, to do something. But, what if you’re the leader of volunteers? What can you do to make sure they feel appreciated? What can you do to recognize their contributions? Here are 52 fabulously fun and creative ways to recognize your volunteers all year long. They’re so easy to do and the rewards are two-fold. You’ll have more productive and happier volunteers just because you took the time to say “thanks.”

Week 1: Give your volunteers a "Round of Applause." Cut a piece of paper into a circle with a photo of people cheering that lists to, from, why, and the date. To say thanks to anyone give them a “round.” After a person collects three of them, they turn them in for a prize.

Week 2: Provide your volunteers with a babysitter certificate or free child care.

Week 3: Make a volunteer recognition board to display somewhere publicly that your team (and others) can all see it. As each person makes a contribution give them an “Atta-Boy” or “Atta-Girl” via the board.

Week 4: Have a team meeting and brainstorm together.

Week 5: Send a Valentine’s Day card using “love” as a theme. (i.e., I love the work you’ve done).

Week 6: Challenge your team to fill openings by finding new members for your organization. People who are passionate about what they do want their friends to be a part of it,too.

Week 7: Start a volunteer of the month program.

Week 8: Give a mini-rake with a note telling your volunteer, “Thanks for your help raking in the donations.”

Week 9: Have a team t-shirt made for volutneers to wear. You could even have them design it.

Week 10: Invite your volutneers to help you with policy formation, group rules and regulations. Have each of them weigh in on your group’s mission statement.

Week 11: Give your volunteers a clover and tell them, “We’re lucky to have you on our team.”

Week 12: Give each member of your team a flower bulb and say, “You have blossomed.”

Week 13: Buy each of your team members a soda.

Week 14: Give a mini box of Frosted Flakes cereal with a note that says “You’re Grrrreat!”

Week 15: Write each of your team members a heart-felt thank you note.

Week 16: Give a mirror and say, “You’re looking at the world’s best volunteer.”

Week 17: Ask your volutneers what you can do for them.

Week 18: Send volunteers an e-mail pointing out what you appreciate about them specifically.

Week 19: Send your team resources for training and development specific to your mission.

Week 20: Award a plaque to key volunteers.

Week 21: Give your volunteers additional responsibilities (provided this is a good thing).

Week 22: Nominate your volunteers for Installation Volunteer Awards.

Week 23: Give each volunteer one hour of your time one-on-one for mentoring.

Week 24: Have an ice cream social.

Week 25: Give a box of Fourth of July sparklers with a note saying, “Your talents just sparkle.”

Week 26: Have a special guest come in and do a seminar or informal talk on motivation or other pertinent topics to your cause.

Week 27: Give each volunteer a pair of scissors with a note that reads, “You’re a cut above the rest.”

Week 28: Make sure your volutneers understand your open door policy and be a real person they can talk to.

Week 29: Make a team or organizational magnet and give one to each volunteer for their fridge.

Week 30: Have a volunteer picnic in the park.

Week 31: Surprise your group with coffee and cake.

Week 32: Make a huge banner full of recognition and place it in a highly visible area.

Week 33: Send a stack of play money and say “Spread the wealth of our organization.”

Week 34: Have a contest and give out fabulous prizes!

Week 35: Have a team meeting and brainstorm together! (yes, I’ve said this before)

Week 36: Praise your volunteers publicly.

Week 37: Make it a point to compliment your team on something they did this week.

Week 38: Send a yo-yo with the note “Thanks for sharing the ups and downs!”

Week 39: Write a letter of recommendation for your team members.

Week 40: Take your volunteers to the movies – or give them gift certificates with popcorn.

Week 41: Give your volunteers a fishing lure with the note “You’re a great catch!”

Week 42: Have an informal get together with your team.

Week 43: Submit a story about your volutneers to the local newspaper.

Week 44: Have a team softball game or other athletic challenge.

Week 45: Create a team scrapbook. Ask for everyone’s input.

Week 46: Give a set of chopsticks with the note “Thanks for learning to use a new tool.”

Week 47: Remind your volunteers how their work fits into the overall mission of your organization. Paint the whole picture of how their efforts are propelling that mission forward.

Week 48: Send a box of Christmas lights with the note “You light up our organization!”

Week 49: Have a “Secret Santa” party.

Week 50: Enlist your “seasoned” volunteers to train new volunteers.

Week 51: Give out service pins and certificates.

Week 52: Give a bunch of goodies wrapped up in a bandana with a note saying “This wraps up another great year – Thanks!”

Additional bookshelf resources for your “volunteer” library:

"Volunteers: How to Get Them, How to Keep Them" (Paperback) by Helen Little

"1001 Ways to Reward Employees" (Paperback) by Bob Nelson Ph.D.

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#milspouse Book List

This list is by no means "exhaustive"! The list has grown since we started to keep a record here at Army Wife Network; it's still growing. If you see a book that isn't here, check out our Bookstore! Or make a suggestion to us via email: info at armywifenetwork.com. Thanks, and Happy #milspouse appreciation day!

• Help! I'm a Military Spouse--I Get a Life Too!: How to Craft a Life for YOU as You Move with the Military (2nd edition) by Kathie Hightower & Holly Scherer
• Chicken Soup for the Military Wife’s Soul by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Charles Preston, and Cindy Pedersen
• Homefront Club: The Hardheaded Woman's Guide to Raising a Military Family by Jacey Eckhart
• Home Fires Burning: Married to the Military-for Better or Worse by Karen Houppert
• Surviving Deployment: A Guide for Military Families by Karen M. Pavlicin
• While They're at War: The True Story of American Families on the Homefront by Kristin Henderson
• Under the Sabers: The Unwritten Code of Army Wives by Tanya Biank
• The Easeurmove Kit by Kathy Capodice
• Heart of a Hawk: One family's sacrifice & journey toward healing by Deborah H. Tainsh
• Courage After Fire: Coping Strategies for Returning Soldiers and Their Families by Keith Armstrong, Suzanne Best, Paula Domenici
• Household Baggage: The Moving Life of a Soldier's Wife by Marna A. Krajeski
• Heroes at Home: Help and Hope for America's Military Families by Ellie Kay
• The Army Wife Handbook: A Complete Social Guide by Ann Crossley
• Today's Military Wife: Meeting the Challenges of Service Life by Lydia Sloan Cline
• Hope for the Home Front: God's Timeless Encouragement for Today's Military Wife by Marshele Carter Waddell
• Going Overboard : The Misadventures of a Military Wife by Sarah Smiley
• Married to the Military: A Survival Guide for Military Wives, Girlfriends, and Women in Uniform by Meredith Leyva
• Surviving Military Separation by Marc Maxwell
• I'm Already Home...Again - Keeping your family close while on assignment or deployment by Elaine Gray Dumler
• Hope for the Home Front: Winning the Emotional And Spiritual Battles of a Military Wife by Marshele Carter Waddell
• Medals Above My Heart: The Rewards Of Being A Military Wife by Brenda Pace, Carol Mcglothlin
• I Live an Army Life, I am an Army Wife by Valerie Senetha Miles
• Military Wives 101 by Tynisa Gaines
• Homefront by Kristen Tsetsi
• Hope for the Homefront by Marshele Carter Waddell
• Solo-Ops: A Survival Guide for Military Wives by Hilary Martin
• The Treasure of Staying Connected for Military Couples by Janel Lange
• That Military House by Sandee Payne
• A Year of Absence by Jessica Redmond
• Shared Courage by Michelle Keener
• Separated by Duty, United in Love by Shellie Vandevoorde
• 365 Deployment Days by Sara Dawalt
• Portraits of the Toughest Job in the Army by Janelle H. Mock
• The Day After He Left for Iraq by Melissa Seligman
• Faith Deployed by Jocelyn Green

Other Books we have found particularly helpful or applicable to our military lifestyle:
• Everlasting Matrimony by Sheryl Kurland
• His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley Jr.
• The Treasure of Staying Connected by Janel Lange
• Romantic Antics by Joy and Kevin Decker
• I Want You to Know Me, love your American Hero by Vicki Mullins
• The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
• The Secrets of Happily Married Women by Scott Haltzman

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Bloom Where You're Planted

(Note: Today for Mother's Day/Military Spouse Appreciation Day Fort Sill, OK Picerne Military Housing is giving away flowers for mom/spouse at their neighborhood offices between 1-4. I want to personally say thanks (though I realize NOW I went by a bit early!!) for my flower and for reminding me to "bloom where I'm planted".)

Bloom Where You're Planted© Tara Crooks

Army spouses aren’t usually afforded the luxury of stability. We’re here one year and there the next. The friends we make tomorrow may not be there next week. Our happiness along this journey is definitely a “state of mind” but there are things we can do to bloom where we’re planted.

Uproot
Closure is important. Allow time to say goodbye and tie up any loose ends. It may not be easy, but the fact of the matter is you’ll be much better off cutting the emotional now, rather than when the moving van is pulling out of your driveway.

Especially if you have children, be sure to communicate openly and get everyone involved in the move. Plan activities during packing and unpacking and let them take part in making decisions on movement of their things.

Last but not least, have some fun and throw a going away party.

Transplant
Don’t feel like just because you’re moving you’re leaving everyone behind or saying goodbye forever. Keeping in touch with friends and family after a move can be difficult to say the least. You have to make a conscious effort. Three quick and simple ways for you to keep in contact with those you won’t see as much anymore are emails and e-greetings, handwritten notes or cards, and phone calls.

Plant Seeds
Once you arrive at your new location you’ll need to take care of the basics – housing, schools/colleges, utilities, phone, cable, internet, medical care, grocery stores, vet, dental, specialty care, church, and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Have a list and a plan of how to take care of these details.

Add Water
Once you’ve got the basics down then you can add the fun stuff. Check out your local phone book or ask around to find a good hair stylist, nail salon, and gym. Don’t forget to throw in something to do Friday night! Where are the local movie theatres, theme parks, and really good restaurants?

Sprout
Don’t forget to get the kids involved in their new location. Those little things need nourishment too! Find local daycare, play groups, and extra curricular activities in which they will want to participate. Don’t forget the value of a same aged neighborhood kid. Those can be a lifesaver!

To help you to plant, water, and sprout check out some of these helpful resources or simply www.Google.com your new city or it’s Chamber of Commerce to find out what is available in your area. If you are near an Army post you can easily find the post’s Morale Welfare and Recreation (MWR) website and find all sorts of activities.

http://www.city-data.com/
http://realestate.yahoo.com/neighborhoods
http://www.militaryavenue.com
www.justmoved.org
Smart Moves: Your Guide Through the Emotional Maze of Relocation
by Audrey T. McCollum, Nadia Jensen, and Stuart Copans

Cultivate
To really bloom you’ll need some cultivating. And that means getting involved in your community. Meet your neighbors, volunteer with local clubs or organizations. If you’re near an Army post, check out Army Family Team Building (AFTB), Army Community Services (ACS) or Family Readiness Center (FRC) as well as the installation’s Spouses Club.

Make that effort, to get out, go places and stop feeling lost. Coach yourself each week to do something you wouldn't naturally do. This may be as simple as deciding to walk your dog every morning.

Buy a map and start exploring. Or just get on a bus and let yourself be driven around. Seeing your new place is fun and right away gives you something in common with other people. And you'll start developing your favorite haunts—a true sign of home!

Expect change, embrace diversity and keep moving. It's not easy but you must make an attempt to bloom where you're planted. Tomorrow, you may be uprooted but having that knowledge and making an attempt at happiness, is all and everything, that life is about.

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Special Message for Military Spouses from Secretary of the Army!

Army Wife Network,

Thank you so much for your support of our Army and our Army families.
As you know, this whole month the nation is celebrating Military Appreciation Month. And today, we celebrate Military Spouse Appreciation Day. We celebrate the glue that holds the Army family together - great Army spouses.

I often travel around the Army and meet with spouses, and I am always impressed with your strength and resilience. There are easier ways to raise a family, there are easier ways for your husbands and wives to earn a living - but there you are, keeping the home fires burning. So let me take a moment and say thank you to all the military spouses listening to your show and reading your blog - thank you for your service and your sacrifice.

We are "ARMY STRONG" because you keep us "ARMY STRONG"!

Sincerely,

Pete Geren
Secretary of the Army

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Installation Safety Day

Our installation is having a Safety Day, and yours might also. Now before you pencil this in to your calendar, be warned. Even though you will drive past the location of your installation's Safety and see fire trucks and police cars, this event is not family friendly.

Last year I drove past the location for Safety Day and my children went crazy because they had to go see all the fire fighters and police men. What did I know, I thought there would be hot dogs and a moon bounce. There were hot dogs and frisbees, but also kevlar vests and knives. Safety Day is not a family event, rather an opportunity for those in uniform to try out the latest in, you guessed it, safety gear.

To this day, the gym where the event was held is "that place where Mommy let us down." I am glad we are pcsing, because hopefully I will live down the disappointment that was Safety Day.

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Registration for Fort Bliss, TX Field Exercise - Monday May 11th

Mark your calendars!
May 11th, 2009 Registration goes LIVE for the Fort Bliss, TX Field Exercise.
Registration is via www.ArmyWifeNetwork.com (EVENTS)

Pass it on!

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"My Spouse is My Hero" Essay Contest

AFaithfulSoldier.com creator Molly Gonzalez, a Cuban-American, Lifestyle Designer for Univision, who hosts and collaborates on segments for various projects for the Nationally televised show, “Despierta America” has created ‘My Spouse Is My Hero’ Essay Contest for Military Spouse Day on May 8th, 2009.

The contest is open to all spouses of The United States Armed Forces, including Marines, Navy, Army, Air Force and Coast Guard; highlighting why your military spouse is your hero. Story criteria will be based on inspiring love, hope and faith experiences in times of hardship and despair between spouses.

Stories submissions start May 10, 2009, and submission deadline ends June 10, 2009. Many sponsors have stepped up to donate their services for Prizes including; Senses hair and make over, Dinner at Benjamin Steak House (former Peter Luger chef Arturo McLeod), A trip to New York to be flown round trip, Hotel stay sponsored by Freedom Hospitality, Day cruise in the North Fork of Long island on 50 foot yacht, Signed original limited-edition Faithful Soldier print by Raul Rubio, and T- shirts and personalized dog tags courtesy of A Faithful Soldier.



The unique dog tags have become in demand, and as a result Molly has expanded her line to now include ‘A Faithful Soldier’ T Shirts for every branch of the military in order to highlight the service that the Armed Forces provides. Gonzalez commissioned young talented graphic designers with limited edition prints for her collection. The result is that not only is she highlighting new talent, but consistently focusing on the men and women in our military and their families.

A portion of the proceeds go to Soldiers Angels, a volunteer-based nonprofit organization, designed to support all branches of the U.S. Armed Forces. Molly’s plans include a foundation with programs for the men and women who serve, their children, and disabled military veterans.

You can submit your ‘My Spouse is My Hero’ Essay or review the rules and regulations by going to http://AFaithfulSoldier.com. There you can also read more about the unique FE/Faithful dog-tag line, read their blog, shop and connect with other faithful soldiers and families.

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May is Mental Health Awareness Month

Since May is Mental Health Awareness Month, I just wanted to post a website that I think has great information for any Spouses who are caregivers. Caregivers to parents with Alzheimer's, PTSD, Traumatic Brain Injury, and so forth. It's free training and mentions free online discussions and training is available.

PLEASE NOTE: At this time, collaboration with Building Better Caregivers with Stanford is in a pilot phase. It is for the family, or informal Caregivers of Veterans who live in either California, Hawaii, or Southern Nevada. Either the Veteran can be the one providing the care to someone, or the Veteran may be the one receiving the care.

Please visit this website for more information.

Self-Management Standford
Stanford Pilot Program New Release
From the website:

Do you care for someone with traumatic brain injury, post traumatic stress disorder, Alzheimer's or other dementia, or doctor-diagnosed memory impairment?
Are you or the person you care for a U.S. veteran?
Do the problems caused by caregiving frustrate you?
Do you want to learn to better manage your own stress and health?

The six-week-long workshop, called “Building Better Caregivers,” will train informal caregivers, such as family members and friends, how to not only provide better care, but also to manage their own emotions, stress and physical health. The interactive online workshop will also provide a forum in which small groups of caregivers can share personal experiences and insights on solving problems, handling difficult emotions and celebrating milestones. Each week, participants will be asked to log on at least three times and spend two hours on lessons and homework.

Caregivers, sometimes military spouses, are just supposed to deal with the change (without any guidance)and this causes more stress for the entire family. I think that if this pilot program becomes successful--and becomes available to all Veterans and their family and friends nation-wide or travels overseas will be a great free resource. GOOD LUCK! If you are in any of the three states, I encourage you to visit the website now.

Also available on-line:

U.S. DoD, Military Health System

BattleMind

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Marriage is a complex science…

Marriage is a complex science…

Let me begin by saying that I believe that marriage is a gift from God! There is no perfect way to be married to your soldier. In fact I have come to know that marriage to anyone…no matter what their career happens to be is a complex science. Just remember science is not always easy…in fact it can be extremely multifaceted and confusing at times. Within a moment you can go from Great to hearing your spouse say, “Wait where is… my divorce ATTORNEY?” Maybe your spouse came home to tell you something like, “This is not working for me…I want a divorce!” Without even giving you a chance to seek the help of a professional therapist/or pastor. Experts always advise couples to seek counseling following deployments…but the truth is sometimes the call to duty can delay your plans to schedule help. Every situation is different…but the sting of stress can be overwhelming.

Just because a marriage may go through a difficult segment does not mean divorce is your answer. During this time be very careful who you confide in…not everyone truly has the best interest of your marriage at heart. Do not be afraid to use the resources available to you. Even if you can not schedule counseling sessions right away…excellent literature is available at no cost to you. Keep in mind that thousands of marriages have succeeded against the odds…divorce does not have to be the final word! So my friend dry your eyes and take a deep breathe…you can figure this out with the right help. No matter what happens you will develop the right action plan for this situation. Whatever is decided help is available to you at this complicated time.

We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited.
Alfred Adler

All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership.
Ann Landers Says Truth Is Stranger..., 1968


Check out the resource information available in your local area. Below you will find a couple of websites to get additional information.

http://www.helpourmilitaryfamilies.org/
http://www.militaryhelp.org/MilitaryHelp/

Wishing you the best,
Tara JW

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Un-Fried Ice Cream (pre-k style)

First step: Grandma's rolling pin!

Second step: Crush sweet corn cereal flakes

Third Step: Melt a stick of butter and fold into crushed flakes

Fourth Step: Roll ice cream in the crushed flakes





Fifth Step: Freeze to eat later




Happy Cinco de Mayo!

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AWL: What kind of woman are you?

This edition of Army Wife Life discussion is brought to you in partnership with Lucky Army Wives! (www.LuckyArmyWives.com)

Please leave your answers to the questions below by commenting on this post. Listen for Tara & Star's answers on Show 212: Week of May 4, 2009 using our AWTR Player to the left!

Excerpt blog post: Just who is that sassy, green M&M with the beautiful coloring, awesome curves and long legs? We have seen (and admire) the effect she has on others - the spell she casts on the unsuspecting late night snacking male. And Pearl and Mercedes must know - just where did she get those patent leather knee-high boots?!

That brings us to our talking points tonight! How does this kind of image relate to our soldier and when they come home from being far away or even not so far away? What kind of “girl” are you? Do you send sweet nothings to your hubby (perhaps a hot foamy latte) during the day as a reminder of what is to come when he gets home? Or instead does he have a to do list when he walks in the door?

Discussion Point 1: Have you ever greeted your soldier at the door with something akin to whip cream in hand? Give us an idea of what you were wearing - and if the outfit plus whip cream equaled a late PT arrival for your sexy soldier!

Discussion Point 2: If you could take your soldier out on a date Friday night – with no consideration for money or childcare - where would you go and what would you do?

Discussion Point 3: Do you prefer plain, black coffee or steamy, foamy lattes?

Discussion Point 4: Does your hubby help with the household chores? Do you think this affects your love life?

Discussion Point 5: Pearl & Mercedes - one has blond hair and one is a brunette! Which hair color are you this week? What is the Clairol bottle number?

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AWTR Mess Hall 05/04/09 - Mexican Flag Cakes

Happy Cinco De Mayo!


1-1/2 cups boiling water
2 pkg. (3 oz. each) JELL-O Strawberry Flavor Gelatin
ice cubes
1 cup cold water
1 pkg. (10.75 oz.) pound cake, cut into 10 slices
2 pkg. (8 oz. each) PHILADELPHIA Cream Cheese, softened
1/4 cup sugar
1 tub (8 oz.) COOL WHIP Whipped Topping, thawed
4 kiwi, peeled, sliced
10 fresh strawberries, cut in half

ADD boiling water to gelatin mixes; stir 2 min. until completely dissolved. Add enough ice to cold water to make 2 cups. Add to gelatin; stir until melted. Refrigerate 5 min. or until gelatin is slightly thickened.

COVER bottom of 13x9-inch dish with cake; cover with gelatin. Refrigerate 4 hours or until set.

BEAT cream cheese and sugar in large bowl with whisk or mixer until blended; stir in COOL WHIP. Spread over gelatin. Arrange fruit on cream cheese mixture to resemble the Mexican flag.

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TinyURL.Com/Caselotsale

Aren't these "tiny" URLs cute?

I was feeling so "in the zone" when I made my first one.

From this: http://www.commissaries.com/stores/html/store.cfm?dodaac=N&page=case_lot_dates

To this: http://www.tinyurl.com/caselotsale

Which is all really truly funny, because while I made the URL or link smaller, the whole point is that this is the World's BIGGEST Case Lot Sale put on by our
local commissaries.

I may have shortened the URL, but they have not shorthanded you on the deals.
Here's a picture worth 1,000 words.



Do you all go to these? I've been a bit overwhelmed at the amount of stuff in the past. But, that's nothing. I get overwhelmed by grocery shopping in general.
Any tips for me. Do you play the Grocery Game; do you meal plan; do you buy in bulk?

I do none of these things. But, I'm willing to learn.

Anyway...this was supposed to be about the World's BIGGEST Case Lot Sale...

Happy Shopping! Good luck: especially you Sarah (News 6)!

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Sally-Saves-A Lot

I went to the Commissary the other day, I was in the checkout line with my little envelope of coupons, in front of me was one of those ladies who always amazes me. You have seen her... Sally-Saves- A Lot, she has a cart piled so high she can barely push it and a recipe file loaded with what you know is the best coupons.

I have always tried to be one of those thrifty chicks but never could find out where to get all those great coupons. It's so frustrating. I clip them from the Sunday paper, magazines, and off the boxes themselves, and every where I come across one. I never get the good ones.

I watch a morning news show every morning while I wake up and sip my coffee,and there was another Sally Saves and she had a friend Courtney Couponer with her. So I did a little research into this couponing and this is what I came up with. If you take the sales flier and write your weeks menu by the sales flier, you can save some money. and if you match a coupon to the sale item you save money.

On my frugal quest I found a few websites worth sharing:
www.mycoupons.com
www.becentsable.net
www.couponmom.com
www.coupons.com

According to the West Point Commissary they do take the print at home coupons just not the ones with the word free on them.

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We are Leaders, Too

We are Leaders, Too© Tara Crooks - ArmyWifeNetwork.com

Whatever you do, no matter if you feel like going or not, attend ceremonies and events. Your presence at the event speaks volumes. Your presence says that “it” (whatever “it” may be) is important.

I was given this really good piece of advice from a very intelligent, fun-loving, inspiring woman I know. She is a woman I deeply respect for her energy and honesty but mostly because she is “real”. She happens to be the wife of an Army General. Now, I’m sure you want to ask me why it would matter that she is a General’s wife. I am not a big believer in spouses wearing the rank of their husband. So really it doesn’t matter his rank. What matters though is in direct correlation -her level of experience along this journey, and the position of leadership that she has been placed in because of her husband’s career.

Let’s be frank, rank may not matter but experience does and usually the two are intertwined. We all know that a spouse assumes a certain level of leadership based on their husband’s rank. Whether you’re the spouse of a Sergeant’s Major or the spouse of a Colonel – no matter what your soldier’s rank – there are assumptions and expectations from others that are attached to those years of experience you carry. Spouses are sometimes thrust into situations that we really would wish we weren’t and some for which we never asked.

I am sure that at the time the General’s wife gave me this advice she never dreamt it would have been so meaningful to me or that in her delivery she would profoundly impact the rest of my Army journey. If she did, she never let on. She was just doing her “job”, and doing it well. She was passing on inspiration, knowledge, and advice to a fellow brave soul along her road march.

As “seasoned” spouses we forget, we are leaders too. Perhaps it is by default, but nevertheless we are the ones that pave the way for those who follow. They look to us for examples of how to brave this life. What we do, how we act, is very important to our environment. We have the power to make or break someone’s experience along this journey. You may not realize it but your actions speak louder than your words ever will.

You’ve all met the uncommunicative, better-than-you, know-it-all, snob of a Colonel’s wife haven’t you? Don’t be her. The most effective leaders are those that create a positive environment. Show genuine appreciation. Communicate openly. Demonstrate loyalty to our Army; but don’t be afraid to take a stand. Most importantly, be approachable. Be real. Be normal. Be honest with yourself and humble with others. Credibility is the foundation of leadership. People like people who show they are human.

Too many spouses spend years living Army life and think that they know it all. Just because you have done something before does not mean you know all the answers. You need help from others. No one is an expert. Just about the time you think you’ve gotten it figured out the Army will change it.

We need to know that leadership skills come from learning, too. If anything else, we need to learn from our younger generation and know the struggles they are facing and realize they may or may not be the same as ours. We need to understand how to reach them, and how to connect. We need to stop making assumptions that if we know it, everyone does. We need to know what others don’t know and teach it to them if we are able. But we also need to know what they do know so that we can be effective.

We can only do that by opening ourselves up and embracing the position in which we have been placed. We can only lead if we know who is following. Real leadership means leading yourself. Let’s lead ourselves to reach out and ask, participate, and become a part of the bigger picture that is our own Army family.

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It Isn't Personal

I overheard a newbie spouse complaining about trying to get something done on post and not being able to because her sponsor wasn't with her. She was frustrated and saw it as the Army not letting her be independent.

It isn't personal people and the faster you get that in your head the faster you will start enjoying your Army Wife Life. At some point in my career as a Army Wife my husband pointed out to me that Mother Army (that is what we call her) does what is best for Mother Army. As frustrating as it is when you feel like you are getting the short end of the stick, it is not personal, it is just what is best for the Army. The Army would never be get anything done if it was "nice" all the time. Our husband's are not in a sewing club.

Army Life can be incredibly fulfilling and a lot of fun, but you have to get over the rules and regulations. There are rules, there are a lot of things that you cannot do without your husband or his power of attorney. It simplifies things for the Army, it needs to be that way. Tuck your own social security number in the back of your head, because you are going to memorize his and use it more than you use your phone number.

The rules and regs help the giant beast that is the Army function and move. Don't take it personally. There are plenty of places where your independence is encouraged. Trust me anyone who's had a major appliance fail less than 24 hours after their husband walked out the door for the field or deployment can attest to the independence you can find in the Army.

It may take a while, but you will find your place, your niche in this life. Look at Tara and Star, they are working the Army Wife Life.

Just remember it isn't personal.

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Book Club Message Board

www.armywifenetwork.com had given the book club a fantastic new tool, a place where we can discuss the book selection all month long. Head over to the message boards on Army Wife Network to talk about book club, and add your 2 cents to the conversation.

This week we are going to discuss a selection from Faith Deployed Daily Encouragement for Military Wives by Jocelyn Green. It is PCS season again and Lori Mumford has written a thought provoking selection on Saying Goodbye, Again

Join us on the message boards, just click on the Interact button and then the Message Boards link. You will find Book Club under the Army Wife Life section!

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Please allow me to introduce myself

Hi – My name is Cindy Risch, I’m what you would called a “senior, seasoned, or Old” Army Wife. I have three children, two grandsons, two dogs and of course a husband. It is the last one of course that brings me to where I am today….

I started my Army Spouse career 18 years ago; I married my husband just after he became a Captain, and after having spent 5 years as an active duty Soldier. After time wearing my own combat boots, I figured I knew all there was to know about a Soldier’s family life! I have since come to realize that being a Soldier and being the spouse of a soldier are two completely different things, each with its own set of challenges and rewards.

With over 20 years association with the Army, I gained a lot of experience through trial and error. Shortly after becoming an Army spouse I attended my first Army Family Team Building (AFTB) class. The Army has changed a great deal over the past 18years, but I still credit that class as one of the best and most valued classes that I attended. It was that class that encouraged me to really get involved and embrace the lifestyle of an Army spouse. I have attended levels one through three, and finally became an AFTB instructor.

During my Army spouse career, I’ve served as an FRG Leader, Advisor, and Volunteer, I’ve held many positions on Army Community Clubs, was a Facilitating, Leading, and Group Skills (FLAGS) instructor and attended almost every class available. I believe that knowledge is power and from class instruction to real world experience you cannot have enough. It will be honor to have the opportunity to get to know, and share my experiences with each of you.

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What do I love about military life?

What do I love about military life? Wow, honestly that is a very hard question. There are many facets of military life, especially being the non-military member (in this case). I ‘joined’ because I just wanted to just get out of small town of Dimmitt, Texas.

Being a small-town girl from Texas, I wanted to “see” the world, travel, and most of all, get an education (to better myself). Funny thing is that it was a mishap being introduced to the military by an Army recruiter (visiting the high school) while waiting on a friend to give me a ride home.

Eventually, I became a military spouse (and not to the recruiter) LOL. There is a lot of things I DON'T love; like transitioning/moving, career changing, new people, new places, white walls, recycling, spouse TDY’s—but, I have come to feel content with all things (especially all the above). It gets harder the more you add to your family; we have four sons, one cat, and one turtle-but you learn to adapt. (That's why military One Source was created...for people like me.) ;)


Life is what you make of it, right?? You can hate it or you can live and learn and then come to love it! As a seasoned spouse, I have come to appreciate my husband not having to pull CQ duty (for example). I think that many new spouses forget that just because the senior NCOs’ don’t have to pull that duty (as an example) –doesn’t mean that at some point in their own career THEY also had to pull the same duty and go through the same feelings, thoughts, struggles. All I can say, is take it day by day and move forward...

It’s a process that you and your military member go through. Some make it and some don’t. Military life isn’t for everyone, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I have seen many places that I would not even dream of if I stayed in Texas (don’t get me wrong---I’ll always be a Texan) but, I have been able to ‘see’ the world.

I have seen and met many new faces. Cultures can collide and won’t skip a beat. Where can a spouse go to a school and have many nations represented in one area?? Even though I have a Christian belief system, my world is integrated will several of others. I can be at my son’s school program and hear the English, German, Spanish, Korean, French languages/conversations going on simultaneously—how neat is that?? Where else but in a military community can you experience that in one setting? (OK, OK—besides New York?)

I believe that one of the most important things is being able to communicate and live well with others. Military life helps in that sense. If you can’t be outspoken or at least social, I am afraid you won’t have the ultimate experience as a military spouse that it has to offer you.

So, as a challenge, if you do NOT love the military life—go out and volunteer in your community, participate with your spouse’s FRG team, find an outlet that you enjoy and bring others in. I feel that if you are not serving others, then there’s not much to the military life to sustain itself. After all, you may not have been issued at the Central Issue Facility; but you are still attached to your military spouse! Have fun and enjoy!! Military life is definitely what you make of it and as J.T. would say---“I’m loving it!”

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K¹² Life at Home

Max and Sophie Severance, K¹² Students

Is homeschooling the right choice for my child? Are my children getting what they need to succeed at home? When my child graduates, will he be accepted into a college?

If you've ever asked yourself these questions, you'll be glad to meet two K¹² students who are quickly approaching the homeschool "finish line".
Max and Sophie Severance are 16-year-old twins currently living in Alaska. Born in California, they have moved several times and lived in seven different states. After one semester of public school kindergarten, it was clear to their parents that their own family values were not being supported by their public school experience. So, despite a meager family income, Max and Sophie have been homeschooled since then. They are now seniors and will graduate from high school one year early. Both of them have been accepted to prestigious private four year colleges of their choice, and will receive full academic scholarships.

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B.O.S. donates proceeds

Download Military Inspired Songs…
from May 4th's Army Wife Talk Radio Resource of the Week

Indie Rock Band, Bridge Of Sighs, Donates Proceeds From "Freedom's Stain" and “The General Speaks” to Operation Homefront.


LOS ANGELES, CA – April 6, 2009 – The indie rock band, Bridge of Sighs has partnered with Operation Homefront and will be donating proceeds from the tracks “Freedom’s Stain” and “The General Speaks” to the organization’s Wounded Warrior program. The band was inspired to write these songs and the title track of the album “Angry Clouds,” after performing six very special concerts over two tours at Guantanamo Bay’s U.S. Naval Base in 2005.

Generate donations for Operation Homefront by downloading MP3’s from
I-tunes or the entire album from Amazon.com.

The popular song “Freedom’s Stain” is performed following its intriguing prelude, “The General Speaks,” which together, tell a powerful story.

“The live shows for the Joint Task Force at the US Naval Base in Guantanamo Bay Cuba were some of our best shows ever,” says the band. “We made life long friends at the facility. The appreciation we received from those brave service men and women proved to be the catalyst for the songs to be written and recorded. These 3 songs, and the record, are for all of our brave men and women in the Armed Forces.”

The album was produced and engineered by Grammy award winner Neil Citron. The album also features Grammy award winner, Bob Carpenter, who played Hammond Organ on several of the tracks.

For additional information contact the band website at www.bosband.com

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