Since the New Year has made its exciting entrance, now I feel a little overwhelmed. Yes, it’s that time of the year that we all are talking about and know of…the New Year’s resolution(s). I have never been one to write down or really even put a list together, but now with more children into our mix, planning is vital for a smooth ride.
Through the years as a military wife, honestly, no home has ever felt as being MY home. We have bought our first home in Missouri when we were there, but again, only two years in that home. We sold it just before the recession really hit….Thank God. Then coming overseas and with 3 transitional moves—needless to say, I really have not been able to settle-down.
The ‘real-world’ knowledge lets me know that I am a military spouse, but sometime my heart can deceive that. Saying, I can’t handle these moves, I miss my family ‘back home’, or this just plains sucks, and I want out. Sometimes, being homesick makes it all the worse.
Wonder why that is… I mean, why am I homesick for?? Is it the town I am missing, the parents or grandparents, the traditional (s)? Growing up and getting married is one thing….being a military spouse is another.
When my husband and I met at Ft Polk, let me tell you –it wasn’t love at first sight, but in love and in appreciation that turned into love. OK, fast forward to the K-I-S-S-I-N-G….and marriage. Little did we know that when marrying someone from another state-cross-country—almost always has its advantages and disadvantages…
Whose family do we see first or in particular this year? Where will home be after retirement? Lots of questions and dilemmas come to mind, but the point I am trying to make is that…home is where you make it. I know that’s a cliché, but it’s true. Our attitudes lead our way…whether positive or negative…it’s of our own choosing though.
We had our Christmas and New Year’s here ‘at home’ even though we are in Germany, sometimes staying home and enjoying each other IS home. And that is all that matters. Even if your spouse is or is not here, making the most with the family we do have is enough. And if we are single, get out and make a family by enjoying friends. Humans are meant to have relationships.
Finally, after a year being stationed here, my New Year resolution is to make my home, HOME. When we moved in, it wasn’t the normal routine, because we replaced a DPW contractor---hence, they walked out and basically didn’t have to ‘clear’ the government leased home. This left me with a most undesirable home…
Pregnant with the fourth child, tired, and miserable---I did not do much to make it home except paint one room that was in great need of some love.
So my New Year’s Resolution is off to a start—making a home… The master bedroom is done and complete…we’ll head off to IKEA soon and get some much needed accessories and then off to appreciate my children’s rooms.
Hopefully, someday I’ll be able to say,”Wow, isn’t time to move yet??? Then I say, “Oh, never mind I forgot you ‘retired’, I’ll just paint the living room a different hue.” Where ‘home’ will be…that’s still an enigma to me.
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That is what it is like, always in some kind of transition. But it will end at retirement, like you say.
Yes, I know the transitioning is rough right now, but it'll be better for future spouses and I understand that...not so much the present spouses though.... ;)
As a Brat: Let me tell you...some days it is the food, others it is the atmosphere...ie everything and anything can make miss 'home'...now what 'home' is the question. Personally it is the memories and the 'normal'.
Remember HOME is where the HEART is!!
I can not say that it gets easier as time goes. But I can say that now that my dad has retired that I still ask when are we moving and still wonder where and what home is?
Thank you so much for writing this. I often feel the same way, mainly with the "I can't handle this," "I'm homesick," part. Thought it is strange how being a military wive creates or encourages this stir-crazy part of me. After two years, I'm ready to go somewhere else! I do have a hard time putting the effort into friendships, though. Sometimes I think it is pointless to do so, even though I know on some level that is wrong. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and feelings.
Thanks everyone for kind words. I know that most military wives must feel this way...but, I also know we are 'deal' with it in different ways also. I am a exovert..so, getting out and doing things--makes the time go by a little faster. To [Short and Bored]: I feel you!! :( As military wives, friendship come and go...but, once you have a good friend to hold on it...they never 'leave' your side. I love FB because I keep in contact with my friends there and it's easier to handle that email or snail-mail. Hope this encourages to get out and make some friends!! :) Take care.
TO [TCDPrayers] you are right; home is where the heart is...but, sometimes I forget! :) Thanks for commenting... Yes, I always say...if I didn't take a photo--it never happened!! :) LOL!! I am a photo-freak...memories are good.
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