Sisterhood of the Traveling BDUs - These girls are amazing!

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Military Spouse Residency Relief Act

Military Spouse Residency Relief Act approved in Senate

We help you understand how this legislation might change your life.

by Andrea Downing Peck

SOURCE: Military Spouse dot com

Since 1940, military members have been permitted to maintain a permanent “legal residence” in one state while being stationed somewhere else. Military spouses, however, legally become residents of their new state every time they make a Department of Defense mandated PCS move.

Residency Defined Now
While a service member can continue to vote, hold a driver’s license, and register vehicles in their original or newly acquired home state, a spouse upon moving to a duty station in a new state has no choice but to register to vote, obtain a driver’s license, and re-register any vehicles titled in her name. Working spouses also cannot maintain their residency in low-tax states such as Florida, Texas, and Washington if military orders send the family elsewhere.

Proposed Legislation
The Military Spouses Residency Relief Act would eliminate for spouses those hassles and inequities. On July 23, the Senate approved the legislation, which would allow military spouses the option of claiming the same state residency as their service member husband or wife. The House Veterans' Affairs Committee has endorsed similar legislation.

“We have long supported a service member’s ability to continue voting and paying taxes in one state over the course of a military career as they are transferred around the world on orders,” said U.S. Rep. John Carter, who represents Fort Hood in Texas, when he reintroduced the legislation in February. “I feel it has been an egregious oversight spanning decades that we have not extended that stability to spouses as well, as they are impacted politically and economically just as much as the service member by these frequent and career-long moves.”

Legislation Origins
At the urging of Army spouse Rebecca Noah Poynter, Carter first introduced the legislation last year during the 110th Congress. The Military Spouses Residency Relief Act passed the House during the last session of Congress but failed to advance through the Senate before Congress adjourned in December. While Carter had expected last year’s bill to pass with “flying colors,” the legislation was shoved to the backburner by the September stock market crash and subsequent banking crisis.


Poynter and Navy spouse Joanna Williamson are the driving forces behind the legislation, and they have brought an unrelenting determination to eliminating residency hassles for military spouses. By the time they both PCS from the Washington, D.C., area this summer, the pair will have had in person conversations with aides to every senator and congressman in the nation’s capitol.

“What Rebecca and I are able to do by going up there on the [Capitol] Hill is put a face to the piece of paper and explain the real life stories of military spouses and how residency issues affect them,” said Williamson, a Web-based business owner living in Virginia.”The history of protecting service members from residency issues is actually quite long, but we have to bring the law up to date. It’s neglectful to military families if we don’t correct this problem.”

Why It Matters
Extending protections under the SCRA would eliminate many of the bureaucratic annoyances spouses face when moving to a new duty station, but, perhaps more importantly, it would help ensure that long-married military spouses do not end up with all their vehicles, real estate, and personal property titled in their husband’s name.

“I view this bill as a women’s rights issue,” Williamson said, “because over time what has happened is military spouses for the ease of moving have put everything in their husband’s name. If a husband should decide to repossess the vehicle, he is within his rights to do so. That leaves a segment of military spouses vulnerable. That bothers me since 92 percent of military spouses are women.”

The argument against the legislation comes from states that fear a loss of state revenue if military spouses opt to declare residency in states with low or no state income tax. Poynter, however, counters those objections by explaining the SCRA does not allow service members simply to choose a state of legal residency.

The Counter-Argument“Somehow the perception is that everyone is going to flee to a no-income tax state. That’s not going to happen because that is not allowed. If a couple makes a choice to [declare the same legal residence], their choice is one state where they already have a relationship with that state,” said Poynter, a public relations professional with clients in Texas, who experienced firsthand the financial cost of being a military spouse when Maryland’s personal income tax took a 10-percent bite out of her wages following a PCS move from Texas.

In order to change their state of legal residency, military personnel most meet certain rules. They must have a “physical presence in the new state” as well as intent to one day make it their “permanent home.” That intent is borne out by owning property, registering to vote, titling and registering automobiles, or preparing a will in the new state. They also are required to file DD Form 2058, State of Legal Residence Certificate, with their local finance office.

How To Help
While Poynter and Williamson may be the public face of the campaign to change residency laws, they are calling on military families worldwide to speak up in support of the legislation. In round two of their legislative battle, they have broadened their campaign to include a Facebook page and have gained the support of two heavyweight organizations – the Military Officers Association of American and the National Military Family Association. Yet grassroots efforts – phone calls and emails to members of Congress - will be the key to the bill becoming law.

“I just keep saying you can’t stand in another DMV (Department of Motor Vehicles) line and complain if you haven’t picked up the phone and called your congressman,” Williamson said. “You can’t stand there and complain if you haven’t done something to fix it.”

What You Can Do
While Carter continues to push the Military Spouses Residency Relief Act through the House of Representatives and two key senators – Dianne Feinstein of California and Richard Burr of North Carolina – are co-sponsoring the legislation in the Senate, the battle is not yet won.

“We’re relying on all spouses to contact their individual congressmen and senators and request their co-sponsorship,” said Poynter, noting that military couples with different home states should call two different sets of representatives.

Having witnessed the legislation pass early hurdles but then stall last year, Williamson knows military spouses must make their voices heard.

“It’s not a done deal yet,” Williamson said. “We still need everybody’s effort and we still need everybody’s input.”

How to Take Action...
For more information on the Military Spouses Residency Relief Act, including ways to voice your support to members of Congress, check out the Military Spouses Business Association website at MSBA or the Military Spouses Residency Relief Act page on Facebook at Military Spouse Residency Relief Act.

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Free Concert at Fort Gordon

Fort Gordon will be hosting a free concert on August 8 (Saturday) at 7 pm. The featured band is the Kelly Bell Band, a phat blues band. For more information visit: http://www.fortgordon.com.

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Central Texas/Fort Hood Area End of Summer Showcase

What: Central Texas/Fort Hood Area End of Summer Showcase - Featuring the BEST products and opportunities!

When: August 1, 2009, 11 am - 3pm

Where: Kouma Community Center Annex, Washington St., Fort Hood, TX

This is a FREE event! Come and check out some of the hottest products from the best direct sales companies in Central Texas!

Companies represented will include: Tastefully Simple, Scentsy, Bedroom Secrets, AVON, and more!Free samples and giveaways, door prizes galore!


Don't miss out on the change to get your favorite Spring/Summer products before they are GONE!

For more information, contact Tricia Ashe 254-415-9848 or email hooahwahm@yahoo.com

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Army Wife Life: July 27, 2009

This edition of Army Wife Life discussion is brought to you in partnership with Lucky Army Wives! (www.LuckyArmyWives.com)

Please leave your answers to the questions below by commenting on this post. Listen for Tara & Star's answers on Show 224: Week of July 27, 2009 using our AWTR Player in the right sidebar!

Excerpt blog post: The purpose of this blog is to reveal and uncover - layer by layer - a little more about Pearl & Mercedes, the authors. Once upon a time, on many Army posts, located in low rent districts across the world, there lived two “Hooah!” Army wives, Pearl & Mercedes. Glamorous, a given; brilliant, like you; svelte, on days of the week not ending in “y”; organized, in their own minds; in control, of the grocery shopping; and high on the Army, in a completely legal kind of way. And, although similar, these Hooah Army wives, like you, were also very, very not so similar and therefore easy to identify – if ever required - in a police station line-up. As we’re frequently questioned concerning our identities – no, not by men carrying badges unless you count the post gate guards! - we thought we would provide you with fascinating facts (about us, of course!) to set the record straight.

Discussion Point 1: What is your favorite song? How do you control frustration? And what is your age???

Discussion Point 2: We've told you our favorite songs, controls for frustration and our age...what do you want to know about friends when you first meet them?

Discussion Point 3: Enough with the friends and getting to know each other...how did you pick up your husband - or did he pick you up...and how?

Discussion Point 4: Go to our website www.luckyarmywives.com the blog is titled “It’s All About We” and read more of these questions - which you can apply in your lives to "uncover" more about your family and friends...use our template for some free therapy fun!

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Hmmm....Stress

So, because of my insane school schedule as a Music Education major, I haven't worked in over a year. I start my student teaching in less than a month. This summer has been REALLY tough for us. During the school year, I can survive on my GI Bill and drill pay. Last summer, I spent more than 3 weeks in the field at AT (ok, ok, ok - so now it's called ECT). This summer has been different. Our July drill was just a Muta 1 - which means after SGLI and taxes, I take home a whopping $23 and some change for being made to show up at a park that's 45 minutes away to do absolutely nothing but be bored with my husband at my side for 4 hours or more. I despise the mandatory fun days that my unit has - because they are really dumb. Instead of having games for the families to play, our command decided to have a competition between platoons.... REALLY? I am already on profile for my ankle, and now on one for my wrist (tendonitis and nerve issues), so I couldn't do anything. The pay really wasn't worth the drive. I have another month until I get my "refund" from school ( I qualify for so much financial aid, that I get a large refund back) that I will use to pay on my credit cards, buy supplies that I need (it's my student teaching semester) and probably a couple new outfits. Until then, I am SO behind that I can't stand it. Then I had a crazy - well maybe not so crazy dream. When I was in my first attempt at college in 2000-2001, I started my own business with a group of business owners selling Artistry make-up. I wasn't mature enough to handle it at the time. I've kept up on paying the fees and all, but haven't done anything with it. So in my dream last night, I dreamt that I got started up doing my business again. The products are fantastic - not PX pricing, but worth what I pay (the same as at the mall - but a better product IMO). I just can't wait to dive back into this. PLUS, when DSS gets back from camp next week, this will give me something to do so that we're not having too much togetherness. That's another story for another day...... I'm just trying to find some ways to create an income on MY schedule while saving money at the same time (I love that I can have it shipped to my door - which saves my gas money and it's a flat shipping fee - sometimes free shipping. Plus, I'm still couponing....actually I just started couponing for the grocery store. I don't know - I just know that i need to do something before I go insane.

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Basic Training Graduation

My son’s journey of basic training started back in May and has finally reached a conclusion. On July 23rd, Gary graduated as “Soldier of the Cycle” for his class. I know I’ve bragged before, but, be prepared for unabashed boasting. “Soldier of the Cycle” is an honor that is determined by the Drill Instructors, thru their observations and a series of boards. He was awarded an Army Achievement Medal, and a plaque for his wall. During the graduation ceremony he stood in front of the Company and recited each line of the Soldiers Creed that the other soldiers would echo back (if you haven't seen this creed, I've added it below, it's pretty awesome). I have to admit that I had tears in my eyes. My son is now a soldier! The transition into a soldier is a wonderful thing, Gary seemed in his element, he was very proud, not just for himself, but, for all of the soldiers with him, they had truly bonded as a platoon and a company.

We enjoyed a couple of days with him after the graduation and dropped him off at the door of Airborne School. He was very excited to be finished with Basic Training, only to jump (ha ha) into the next opportunity. Airborne school is just a short three-week course, which should seem like a piece of cake after basic. I’m looking forward to seeing more changes in him after this next adventure.

I’m very proud of my son, my husband and our family. It’s not easy being an Army Wife or Mom but I wouldn’t trade it for anything!!
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The Soldier's Creed

I am an American Soldier.
I am a Warrior and a member of a team.
I serve the people of the United States and live the Army Values.

I will always place the mission first.
I will never accept defeat.
I will never quit.
I will never leave a fallen comrade.

I am disciplined, physically and mentally tough, trained and proficient in my warrior tasks and drills.
I always maintain my arms, my equipment and myself.
I am an expert and I am a professional.
I stand ready to deploy, engage, and destroy the enemies of the
United States of America in close combat.
I am a guardian of freedom and the American way of life.
I am an American Soldier.

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RVing Across the Country = Desperation

My husband's deployment is getting closer and I am in full panic mode. On the way home from visiting family this week I had the brilliant idea that during the next year I would buy a Recreation Vehicle and travel the country. At the time the idea flashed in my brain, it seemed brilliant. I could home school my oldest and we could see the sights of the USA. I pictured us camping and biking. We have friends and family all over the country. I could blog and do the news from the road.

It occurred to me several hours later that I was planning an escape. Deployment can be so monotonous and so lonely I think I was literally trying to run from it. I have been trying to come up with some magic idea that will make the deployment fly by. You may be wondering what brought me to my senses. Having to stop at a truck stop to nurse the baby, change a nasty poop from my dear two year old all while my six year old and four year old were fighting smacked me upside the head. I realize full well, and how could I forget because people are constantly reminding me, that I will have my hands full during this deployment.

I have been searching almost desperately for some way to come out of this deployment, smarter, thinner, more educated, something other than angry and exhausted. This is my third deployment and I don't want to waste another year of precious time by wishing it away. I want it to mean something other than sadness and separation. I know that attitude has a lot to do with it, I'm still working on that.

The RV is not totally out of the picture, all though the more I think about it, particularly the part where you have to pump the sewage out, the less likely it seems. If only there were something like a lollipop and a sticker at the doctor's office, to make it all better. An RV full of screaming kids and a full toilet tank are is probably not the answer.

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Sharing from our Message Boards - 1st PCS

(Taken from www.armywifenetwork.com - Message Boards)
by klboone212 » Fri Jul 17, 2009 6:33 pm

Okay I have the house packed up and have taken pictures of all our valuables and made a list of serial #'s/models etc.

What else do I need to know about a military contracted move?
I know that what the take apart they put back together... Correct?

I've been trying to research online. I lucked out and got all our moving supplies from a local gas station for free (boxes and tape) thanks to a friend that works there. So I don't have reciepts for anything... Yet!

How do you handle pets? They just ride along with you correct? (In our car).

I feel like I'm so unprepared!!! :/

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Hey Kara!
Let me just start by saying you are way ahead! Good for you.
I like to start a move by making a list of items I want to be sure go with me on the move. Anything really valuable, cleaning supplies, basics to function, maybe even important wedding memoriabilia, etc. As well as pet supplies as I saw you must have them. And yes, our pet came in car with us. The only time that is different is if YOU set up a shipping of them or are moving overseas.

Now, if you have a contracted Army move, they will NEED to pack your items for you. Not you! I say this with importance because they are only responsible for what THEY pack. If that makes sense. They will not replace anything you packed on your own. So let them. It's less work for you and you know they are responsible for it. Also, they will have ALL the supplies for this. Usually one group comes the first day to PACK, and then the 2nd day another group will LOAD.

I suggest taking photos on packing and moving day. Just incase. It helps to keep the packers/movers on task, and they know they are on film. Just tell them you want them for memories. It's just a safeguard. Also, I suggest offering them lunch. Subway or burgers is always fine. It's always appreciated by the movers and they tend to be kinder when they know first thing in the morning that you are providing food. Maybe donuts or something in the morning. Have a small cooler with soda or H2o too. For both you and them.

TAKE TRASH OUT OF BINS! They will pack it. ICKY! But they will. Let movers know where the "trash" items can be thrown. Also, I suggest pre-loading your items (the ones going with you) into your vehicle or put in a seperate area. This way they are not loaded on to the truck or packed. You'll need those necessities for your move/travels.

Lastly, I suggest keeping your receipts for EVERYTHING. Hotels, food (even what you buy for the movers), gas, mileage, moving packing (for your personal items). The Army will and should pay you back. Within reason that is. For example... The army paid for our Tie Downs and ramp. It was necessary for my husbands motorcycle that he wanted to move WITH US and did not trust the movers with. They paid us back. That was over $500!!! So keep every receipt

Remember to weigh your car empty and then full once you load it with the items you are taking. The army will pay for the weight you move (up to a certain amount). You will have to pay for the weigh in in advance. Again, keep the receipts, you will be reimbursed.

I think thats it. If you think of anything else just ask or email me. Enjoy your move. Remember you get a good food allowance while traveling so enjoy it... get a nice meal together Good luck!

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Summer Treats

Have you ever noticed that in the summer when it’s hot out and you’ve been running ragged with your kiddos it’s nice to have a lighter meal? Something that won’t weigh you down but will still fill you up, and maybe it is even something cool and refreshing. Here are a couple recipes we have to share:

Kids will love this and it’s great on tacos or fajitas!

Fresh Pineapple Salsa
20 Calories per ¼ cup serving
RECIPE INGREDIENTS:
2 cups fresh pineapple, chopped
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
1/2 cup cilantro
1/2 jalapeno pepper, seeded and chopped
1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes (or less for a milder taste)
Salt

1. Place all of the ingredients but the salt in a blender or food processor and pulse until the ingredients are mixed but still chunky.

2. Transfer the salsa to a bowl, salt it to taste, then cover and refrigerate it until ready to serve. Makes 2 cups.

Watermelon Star Pops
RECIPE INGREDIENTS:
Watermelon
Popsicle sticks
Star-shaped cookie cutter (or other shapes)


1. Use a cookie cutter to cut juicy star shapes from 1-inch-thick slices of seedless watermelon.

2. Insert a Popsicle stick into each star, and then set the pops on an aluminum foil-lined baking sheet.

3. Cover the stars with another sheet of foil and freeze for 1 hour or until firm.

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ETS to Switzerland

We have 1 year and 8 months left on "our" contract before we plan on ETS'ing to Switzerland.

Can anyone tell me how I have to organize our move?
What does Transportation do?
What needs to be on my husbands orders?
What else is important to know that it runs smoothly?
How long does it take for the householdgoods to arrive at the desired destination?
How do I "move" a dog?

Does anyone know who I could ask for more info?

I'd really appreciate your help! I don't want our "material" to get lost in the atlantic ocean... or so...

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military spouse residency relief act

if, like me, you have been transplanted a few times from one post to another you might want to find out more about this act. this act will allow spouses to claim the same state residency as their service member, which would eliminate many hassles for us, the army wives. i have had some issues with this lately, so much so that we ended up doing what most military couples do, we put everything in his name. residency issues have been overlooked by many except the ones it effects.

the act passed in the house last year, but stalled in the senate due to the housing, banking, stock market issues. if you would like to find out more about this act, their website is www.milspousebiz.org. 

sorry for the short post, i meant for it to be longer where i would be pithy and snarky but with the hubby and kids barging in every 2 minutes to ask about where to find things, or where to find more things, i think a drink is in order. it might help with the whole where to find things binge they seem to be on. 

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Going GREEN (Tonights HH6)

We are in a new era and “green” is the word. It seems like everywhere you look things are turning toward energy savings and a greener, healthier earth and lifestyle. Even the grocery stores are selling re-useable bags (some are for our freezer items) for toting our foods home. It’s great to do what we can to conserve energy. What are some of the things you are doing to “go green"?

Saving energy is good for many reasons, you lower your electricity bill, you learn not to waist and you reduce pollution in the environment. Although many electricity companies use renewable energy from winds or water power, which is great of course, but that does not mean you just have to keep on juicing!

There are loads of things you can do every day that doesn’t have to be a pain, if you just find a routine. Here are some tips to conserve energy around your home and help the Earth:

1. When you’re boiling water on the stove, put a lid on the pot. All the heat is preserved and it boils much quicker!

2. Cooking food on the stove? Turn it off a little while before you’re done. The remaining heat in the plate will be enough for the last minutes of cooking which means you won’t be wasting any energy!


3. Don’t open the oven the whole time to check if the food’s done. It release loads of heat and every time you close it again it takes a while for the oven to reach the same temperature.

4. Defrost your freezer often! This makes it more efficient and it doesn’t need that much energy to become ice cold again.


5. Rinse used packaging e.g. aluminum cans, milk packs and other containers before recycling them. This prevents odor and makes it easier for the recycling station to recycle.

6. Every time you leave a room like the bathroom, kitchen or bedroom turn off the lights. You save loads of energy and when you come back you just flip the switch again and voila, light!

(Tips are from: engimahippie.wordpress.com)

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9 Financial Tips for 2009

Weathering Tough Financial Times: 9 Tips for 2009

The financial crisis of 2008 battered the wallets of many Americans, leaving them unable to make ends meet. While saving and investing may be difficult, it’s critical to weathering tough financial times. These nine tips can help:

Pay down credit card debt. Banks are increasing interest rates and late fees and reducing credit limits on credit cards. That means higher borrowing costs. Lower credit limits can also mean lower credit scores if you don’t pay down your credit card balances. Read more about dealing with credit card debt.


Check your credit report. With credit becoming harder to get, make sure your credit history is accurate—and correct problems that may hurt your credit score. For your free credit report, call (877) 322-8228 or visit www.annualcreditreport.com. The FINRA Investor Education Foundation—a partner in the Department of Defense Financial Readiness Campaign—is making BrightScore® available for free to active duty military servicemembers and their spouses to help them manage their credit wisely. To learn more, visit www.SaveAndInvest.org/credit.


Create a rainy day fund. One in three Americans has no emergency savings. Aim for at least one month (preferably three to six months) of your current salary in an insured savings account. Don’t touch it unless absolutely necessary. Learn how to create a rainy day fund, and find out more about how to be a "Military Saver."


Avoid raiding your Thrift Savings Plan. Before cutting contributions or borrowing from your workplace retirement plan, reduce spending wherever possible. Read more about how to weather tough financial times.


Diversify. Particularly if your portfolio declined more than broad market indices, make sure you are well diversified. Spread your risk by spreading your investments both among different asset classes—meaning stocks, bonds and cash—and within each asset class. Read more about managing your investment risk.


Open account statements. When markets are volatile—and especially during a bear market—you may be tempted to avoid the trauma of seeing losses in your portfolio by ignoring your TSP, 401(k), IRA, mutual fund or brokerage account statements. But doing so can blind you to problems in your accounts other than performance. Learn more about bearing up in a bear market.


Know that fees matter. Find out what each investment costs. With mutual funds, for example, the higher the fees and expenses, the less real return you make. Compare the impact of fees and expenses on mutual funds, Exchange Traded Funds (ETFs), and Exchange Traded Notes (ETNs) using FINRA’s Fund Analyzer.


Protect yourself against identity theft. Virtually any news item, positive or negative, can become a "hook" for a new scam—and the current turmoil in global financial markets is no exception. Phishing attacks surged in October 2008 by 103 percent following stock market drops. These spams often exploited news of bank failures as a hook to obtain personal information. To avoid taking the bait, visit our Protect Your Identity resouce center.


Invest for the long term. Investors with a short-term outlook often jump ship just as a bear market bottoms out or jump in as a bull market peaks. Instead of panicking or trying to time the market, focus on the long term. Investing incrementally, in good times and bad, is a tried and true way of bearing up in a bear market. Read more about investing for the long term.
Even if you were not thinking about saving and investing when the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve, it’s not too late to set fresh financial goals for 2009. Take time to make a long-term financial plan—and stick with it. And be sure to learn more about savings opportunities and tax credits available to military servicemembers, such as the Savings Deposit Program and the Earned Income Tax Credit.

Many investors feel pinched these days—and may be more willing to take risky measures to make ends meet. But it’s important not to panic. Staying diversified, understanding risk and reducing debt are the best ways to manage your finances during uncertain times.

Financial Readiness Training: Army OneSource: eLearning (just log-in)

Financial Literacy Game: Try it!! :)

Army Well-Being

Your Financial Life

Survivor Benefit Plan

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10 Ways for Civilians to REALLY Support Our Troops by supporting the families

#1 Thank them for their sacrifice.
Keep it short and simple. Intense feelings of sadness and fear lie just beneath the surface. Too much emotional sympathy, or worse, pity, may undo their hard-won self-control.

#2 Leave opinions about the war at the door.
Military spouses are as diverse in their beliefs as civilians. Their beliefs may not be the same as yours but those beliefs may help them cope with the fear and sadness they feel during a deployment. Just listen.

#3 Donate to organizations that support service members and their families.
One is Operation: A Bit of Home. For a long list of worthy organizations visit www.AmericaSupportsYou.mil or vist ReMIND Cause to donate.

#4 Friends, Family members and neighbors can give them a break.
During deployment, homefront life is often isolated and grueling. Give specific offers of help - dinner, mow the lawn, offer to watch their kids for an evening.

#5 Employers can give military spouses more flexible hours before, during, and immediately after a deployment, understanding that the spouses' home demands have doubled.

#6 Educators and daycare providers can turn to the Military Child Education Coalition, www.militarychild.org, to learn how to help children facing a deployment.

#7 Professional organizations can offer pro bono services such as donated legal services to families with deployed service members. Counselors who wish to volunteer can try contacting the counseling organizations listed on Kristin's website.

#8 Churches, clubs, and book groups can offer support groups and social events, especially around holidays when a deployed family members' absence may be extra hard. See how some churches are reaching out to military families at www.elca.org/peaceandwar/families.html.

#9 Educate yourself about the services available to military families, many of whom are unaware and suffer alone. Family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clergy, teachers, and others can create a safety net of support to steer individuals toward help.

#10 Stay engaged!
Make sure your military reflects the country you want America to be. Pay attention when military issues come up in the news, compare information from a variety of sources, write letters to the editor, and hold your elected leaders accountable for how they use the military and how well they support them.

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July Post With The Most

Country Music group Diamond Rio will be giving a free concert at Fort Lewis! This will be on July 28 at 7 pm at the Memorial Stadium Park. For more information, please call 253-967-4294.

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Military Families Guaranteed In-State Tuition

I was reading another blog and this is what it read:
Military Families are now guaranteed In-State tuition. The article to read is here.

As of July 1, military members, spouses and their college-aged youth are now guaranteed in-state tuition at public colleges and universities in the state where they reside or are permanently stationed. A MOAA-backed initiative, the in-state tuition directive, was approved by Congress as part of the Higher Education Act and became effective for enrollments after July 1, 2009.

Most states already offered military families in-state tuition, but many did not allow for continuation of the in-state tuition rates once the military member relocated. This change takes care of that. Military families should no longer be subject to rate hikes if the military member PCSes from that state. If they have enrolled at a public college or university, then they will be able to pay in-state tuition rates as long as they remain continuously enrolled, even if the military member moves.

It’s possible though that some institutions may not be aware of the change. Service men and women who have questions should see the institution’s registrar or the campus-based Veterans Affairs office, if there is one. Servicemembers may also contact the Department of Education’s Ombudsman’s office (toll-free at 877 557-2575).

That is good news! Now, something I would really like to see go away--is the "Car Sales Tax" for military members who go from state to state. Military members should be exempt from that. HONESTLY! I really was shocked when we moved from Germany to FLW, MO a few years back...we bought a car (used) and shipped it to MO. Once we registered the car, we had to pay a sales tax on the car. It wasn't cheap either. Even though we didn't buy it in MO. How weird is that?

I really didn't enjoy paying that tax, it seemed ridiculous to me to have to pay for it. There are definitely some pros and cons being in the military and moving from state to state; from overseas to the states and vice versa...but, I guess as Military spouse--we learn to just go with the flow.

I am thankful for this new opportunity to military Families-about the in-state tuition and hopefully this relieves some financial burden during this time. I know alot of spouses who are going for that higher education/degree (even military dependents). Little by little, I am thankful for Uncle Sam recognizing what (advantages) are actually not given to us as military members/spouses...and that Uncle Sam/Army trying to equal out some of those benefits is outstanding.

Needless to say, there are so many resources out there for us military spouses, that I hope and pray that today's spouse (young and the more seasoned) appreciate these benefits. It breaks my heart to see some of the younger spouses not being able to handle the military life... I try to help out with outsourcing all the available help that is available-as much as I can and when the help is wanted. ACS is truly an amazing program. Military OneSource is becoming my best friend (online, of course).

What I would like to say to younger spouses, is that it does get better. Yes, your spouse is a Soldier--technically a 24/7 job--even though we don't like it; but it's true. So make the best of the situation you are in. Relationships is not 50/50, it's 100/100 percent. You can only choose what you can do and vice versa. That's one lesson I have learned. You can't change another person, only yourself. Once I learned that...my relationship with my husband has gotten better. LOL! Not saying we don't argue once in awhile, but we don't argue everyday.

So, what are some of your pet peeves when dealing with the Army life (e.g. PCSing, transitioning, etc.)? Love to hear about it!

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Dog Tags in Hand

Yes, it's that time of year when I get a little nostalgic. The time of year when Memorial Day, July 4th and then Veteran's Day all come within a few months of each other. It's as if I have a sense of standing for those who have gone before us and those who are currently serving this country. I find myself frustrated if I attend a service on these days that doesn't focus on America and all that goes along with freedom and sacrifice. My husband and I have actually walked out of meetings when the focus has been on life as usual during these times when the recognition and honor could have been place exactly where it should have been....on the great American spirit and those who fight and sacrifice to defend it.

I use to only put out my little flags in my flower pots and around the outside of the yard on these holidays. Now, I change them out most of the year. The big flag still flies on our front porch at sunrise until sunset and I am proud to know that all who pass our corner house each day, see it and recognize we take pride in displaying it each day.

Having been a military wife most of our married life, I am getting into a panic right now. We are just about to go into our 8th year of living in one place. My first thought is that I might actually have to clean cobwebs or baseboards or shutters and windows. I am used to just leaving that to the two to four year period of getting the cleaning done for clearance of quarters. I also cannot imagine what critters have embedded themselves in the attic boxes that have not been touched for nearly 8 years.

So, I began to set my sights on deep cleaning and rearranging. I began by cleaning out some drawers. I found the baby things I am keeping for grandchildren some day and as I opened the cedar chest to lay them inside, something caught my eye. It was a rusty chain with two rusty dog tags on it.

I began to read the inscription and saw that my Dad's name, his social security number and his mother and father's names and address (my grandparents) were engraved into the medal. I held them close to my chest and sobbed. I put them around my neck and wondered, where had he been when he wore these. Did he feel lonely, frightened or sad? Was he writing one of his beautiful love letters to my Mom while serving in Cuba or was he sitting back with a smoke and joking with his buddies?

These dog tags reminded me of why I feel so defensive during times of patriotic holidays. My father served and my husband served a country they deeply loved and one they felt honored freedom and all that goes with it. Their love of God and country went hand in hand as they served to allow others to live in freedom and the entrepreneurial spirit. They believed and still do in a country that stands for something so it will not fall for anything.

I am displaying these dog tags as a constant reminder to me to never become complacent on behalf of America. I want to always be proud to be an American in a land established on God's truth for our country. Established by our founding fathers and intended to be the foundation of who we are.

As I close with dog tags in hand I once again say, "Thank you for your service Military families! You make us continually proud to be Americans and we stand together with you every day in thought and in prayer as you serve this great land!"

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Army Wife Life: July 13, 2009

This edition of Army Wife Life discussion is brought to you in partnership with Lucky Army Wives! (www.LuckyArmyWives.com)

Please leave your answers to the questions below by commenting on this post. Listen for Tara & Star's answers on Show 222: Week of July 13, 2009 using our AWTR Player in the right sidebar!

Excerpt blog post: Flight attendants prepare for landing! Pearl & Mercedes have just returned from a whirlwind meet and greet trip with our fellow Army fairies (actually, we just waved our wands and gathered the wise women of the Army post forest – you might remember our fairy talk from 2 weeks ago). The crystal ball confirmed what was becoming clear behind the forest fog - our strong, capable soldiers require regularly scheduled ogre-aversion maintenance. You must adhere to the Army Wife Manufacturer guidelines for soldier tune-ups. Our soldiers can be myopic in their view of the world - the Army world that is...and so this blog discusses and encourages the need for wife maintenance on our husbands… The root of the blog is that over time the talents our husband once possessed to cook, clean, and romantically love us, will change over the years. They need us to do it all. As if they have forgotten. Somehow we manage it!

Discussion Point 1: What kind of car would your husband be?

Discussion Point 2: What kind of car would you be?

Discussion Point 3: When the stoplight turns yellow - do you gun through it - or pause and wait for more time to enjoy the ride?

Discussion Point 4: Are you due for a tune-up?

Discussion Point 5: What services do you feel are the ones that really fill your love tank?

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Strengthen your Marriage! Oxygen Seminars (Main Guest for Tonight's Show)

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1. Create and implement an ACTION PLAN for your relationships.

2. Design a SUPPORT SYSTEM to build on your successes and get you through the tough times.

3. Learn how to PAY FORWARD what you have learned to help others.

Here's a Small Sample of What You'll Learn:

-Learn the differences between men and women and how you can meet your partners emotional needs.
-How to get out of the cycle of reacting to problems, conflicts and situations, and move towards acting proactively. We will help guide you through these critical steps to bettering your relationship.
-Find out about 7 steps that will lead to incredible sex. Guaranteed to increase the romance in your relationship.
-Find out secrets to saving your marriage if you and your spouse do not live together or are separated by military deployment.

On their site you can even do a Couples Checkup!!!
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The Couple Checkup by Life Innovations is a proven couple analysis that shows strengths, as well as areas for growth in a relationship. Your own marriage will be enriched! As well as answers for couples in need of help, and pre-marital couples get a great start!

Here's the site: OXYGEN SEMINAR

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Tonight's Resource of the Week

LOCAL SINGLE DAD HELPING OVER
100,000 SINGLE PARENTS AND THEIR KIDS !!

Single Dad from Hewlett one of only 18 people selected nationwide to fulfill his dream!

Hewlett, New York – Ron Dilbert, a local Single Dad from Hewlett, has become one of only 18 people selected nationwide to work to fulfill a dream. Mr. Dilbert has been selected to work with Author, Speaker, Impact Guru and Businessman Ken McArthur and his team of experts.

The 18 selected will meet with Ken McArthur and Mr. McArthur’s Power Team in Philadelphia this August 22nd to the 24th. There they will work together to build Mr. Dilbert’s Single Parent Power, along with the other 17 businesses so they can help many more people in need. Mr. Dilbert will be continuing his quest to help over 100,000 single parents and their children by December 1, 2010. By being selected to participate, he brings the power of the Impact Guru, Ken McArthur, and his entire team to help make this dream a reality!

On September 26th to the 28th, this team of 18 along with Ken McArthur team will move the show under the Big Top in LA! There they will work together to empower a new startup business to become successful in their endeavor to help people. At the end of this event, this amazing team will have created 19 service-oriented businesses designed to help hundreds of thousands of people worldwide!

Mr. Dilbert has been a single parent for over 19 years, having raised his son John from the age of one. They have been through many challenges by themselves, since no organizations existed to help single custodial dads.

Mr. Dilbert started Single Parent Power in October 1996 after being let go from his job. This was the beginning of Mr. Dilbert’s mission to help single parents and their children so they would be better prepared with the proper tools and knowledge to deal with the challenges of Single Parenting, and to build a closer, more connected and more empowered family.

Now Mr. Dilbert has been selected as one of an elite 18 person power team gearing up to make major changes.

To learn more about Ron Dilbert and Single Parent Power, please visit their website at http://www.SingleParentPower.com.

For questions and additional details, contact Ronald Dilbert at Single Parent Power, Inc. at (516) 355-1552 or by e-mail at rdilbert@SingleParentPower.com.

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We're having that talk ...

Every two years or so we have the talk. Well, we did it. You know, that talk. We had it. The "what do I want to do with my career in the Army" talk. The "where do you want to move and not move" talk.

Up until this point, I think I was just going wtih the flow.

You would think it was a pleasant thing to talk about. An exciting journey. But I always seem to end up saying where I want to go and getting my heart set on something and then I get the news that it's not my plans at all.

I cannot complain. I didn't choose Fort Hood and loved it. I didn't choose Fort Stewart, loved it too. Come to think of it - we've never been anywhere I "chose" (for however much water that holds) and I've been a pretty happy camper.

It's just always interesting to see what my husband has planned for us (and his career) and then what kind of loops I can throw into his plan. I'm pretty sure I'm not alone when I say that my husband has a hard time factoring in some family equations into his major life altering decisions. I don't think it's because he doesn't love us or care about us or even think about us. He's just not wired that way.

So there we went down this road. Where do you want to be when 20 hits? Somewhere in TX, I answered. Where do you want to go after here? How long will we be here?, I said. Apparently I can start gardening and laying some other "roots" because we're sticking around awhile.

If there is one thing I have learned (and was reminded by friends recently) this "talk" in the end - really doesn't matter - because until your household goods are on a truck (and sometimes even if they are) you're not moving anywhere!! It is good though, to have a map of your dreams and wishes along this Army journey. If even its just wallpaper to decorate your bulletin board.

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Box Pick Up

Apparently you only have thirty days to have the movers pick up empty boxes. Our new garbage company will not take any garbage that is outside of the can.

Any suggestions for uses of cardboard would be helpful! I am contemplating brown wallpaper.

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Fort Stewart Library

I am exploring our new duty station, Fort Stewart. This weekend I went to the library and was pleasantly surprised. Fort Stewart has an amazing Family Readiness Library, which has a ton of military titles dealing with everything from being married to the military, soldiers returning from war,having a wounded soldier, and many other topics. This section is truly user friendly because there wasn't just one or two copies of each title, but more like ten to fifteen copies.
I hope other libraries will take notice and have such a vast collection of books that pertain to our military lifestyle. Someone at Fort Stewart is paying attention.

HOOOAH Fort Stewart Library!

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Gratitude

I debated on whether or not to share this story, but I just couldn't get over one man's gratitude. This past Saturday night my husband and I, as well as another couple (also military), decided to go out and get dinner and a drink. It was a fun double date on the town. No sooner did we sit down and order a beverage and an older gentleman approached us and asked if the boys were "Army". The two quickly replied yes. We all assumed he had some questions about 'the life', but we were very wrong. The man threw a $100 bill on the table and said, "Enjoy your night, have fun." Just like that he was gone. We sat there flabbergasted for a few moments. None of us knew what to say to the others. Then our friend Matthew jumped up and ran out the door to thank him. He was gone. As if Santa had come down the chimney and was already off to his next rooftop. I still am not sure what to say. The only way it can make sense to me is that this man truly had gratitude in his heart for their service. I'm not sure why he picked us, or why at that location. He seemed to have a mission, for lack of a better phrase. You could just see it in his eyes. Then he was just gone. The four of us very frugally spent a small amount of the money on pizza. We were so thankful for the generosity. In the end of it all, the four of us decided this was an opportunity to pay it forward. We will in turn do the same for another military family or couple when given the chance. I just had to share this. Wow!

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army wives: us and the show

i've met a few people who, when they learn my husband is in the army, will ask if i watch Army Wives on Lifetime. my response is an enthusiastic "YES!!!". then, the inevitable question "is it really like that for you guys?". my answer is always a little more guarded, and here is why: the sense of sisterhood and instant appreciation for having someone in the same boat as you that the characters on the show have, is well, what most of us wish we could find. it's a little bit harder because after almost a decade, i have found 4, yes only 4 army wives that i have that same boat fun with. we have a good time talking sometimes too frankly about life with our soldiers and life within the army wife confines. the gripes and frustrations we do have about army life though, we don't share with those who aren't in the same boat with us. it's hard to complain about deployments, or fighting different companies about your power of attorney without people looking at you strangely when you come to the end of your rant. because they don't have the same reference points, they sort of just smile and nod. so i like to guard my answer because i don't want to look like a lunatic, or sound snotty with a "you wouldn't understand" attitude. as for the other topics they delve in: infidelity, death of soldiers, being a new wife and figuring out what "in the field" means, trying to find "you" again, how much red tape crap we have to put up with while the hubby is gone and sometimes the red tape we encounter just to get ANYTHING done. i do tell people that it's fairly on target, and i'm so glad that we have some sort of representation. i love the characters, they have become my new frg friends in a way. although, i have one gripe, my hair NEVER looks that great like theirs does. so Lifetime people? please send my the hairdresser.

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The Patriotic Wife

The team at The Patriotic Wife is incredible! I was visiting their site and looking for some early Christmas shopping goodies and the items they carry are so great! I had to share it with other military families too. They have things for wives, sisters, moms and more. Every item from pillowcases, note cards, blankets, and purses to specialty military brat items too! They cover all branches of the military, and the products are pure quality. I wanted to make sure I shared their site with all of you. I know as military families and spouses there are always fun events, birthdays and other holidays that their products would be great for. I hope this can help you to get an extra special gift when needed.

The Patriotic Wife

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Operation Rising Star

Attention out there to all of you up and coming singers. The Army is now starting it's Operation Rising Star contest at many different Army posts. Prizes range from $100 for third place to $500 and an advancement to the television finals (at Fort Knox). I believe each post has their own prizes.

Visit http://www.oprisingstar.com to get more information.

This is open to all Active Duty, Reserve, and Guard Soldiers - as well as their family members. Participants must be 18 or older.

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BetterThanFiction seeking military spouses - paid opportunity

BetterThanFiction Productions (producers of Lifetime Army Wives - Real Life Army Wives: HOMECOMING webisodes) is seeking friendly, busy military wives who would enjoy being on TV. We're working on a promotional television campaign in connection with a popular household product. The videos are scheduled to air later this summer on Lifetime Television. We're looking for women in the New York or New Jersey area with two or more kids whose husbands are currently deployed. We would come to your home with a camera crew for about 4 hours and pay you a fee of $500 for participating.

If you fit the description above please email your photo with a note expressing interest in this project to info@armywifenetwork.com. There is a short deadline so please reply ASAP!

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10 Ways to Annoy A Military Wife

So, I bought this magnet through the Cafe Press website quite some time ago:

1. As soon as you find out her husband is deployed, take it upon yourself to tell her exactly how you feel about the war and how WE shouldn't be over there.

2. Follow that up by asking how she feels about the (former) President. (I bought this a year or so ago).

3. Look suprised and say, "I don't know how you do it, I could never LET my husband do that."

4. If she's pregnant, be sure and ask if the military is going to send her husband home for the birth.

5. Tell her she should really consider getting additional life insurance since her husband has a good chance of getting killed.

6. Remind her how lucky she is that her husband gets all that extra tax free money when he's deployed.

7. Try to relate to her by saying you know just how she feels because your husband was out of town on business for a week last month.

8. Ask her how she can be so faithful for 15 whole months and if she worries about her husband cheating on her.

9. Inquire on whether or not her husband has killed anyone.

10. Be sure to ask her when her husband comes home if he's done with the military or if he has to go back.

I got asked #10 a lot when Matt was deployed, as well as #3, #6, #1, and #2. Yup - I pretty much got all these statements/questions when he was deployed.

Isn't it amazing that non-military people have NO clue as to what we go through or that they can be so uncaring of what we are feeling. I know we briefly talked about this on last night's AWTR show - but I do think that being a military spouse is vastly different than being the spouse of a cop or firefighter. While their jobs aren't the safest ones in the country - they aren't being deployed (unless they're also in the military) to fight an "unkown" enemy. That's just how I think of it. I give my 110% Hooah out there to ALL military spouses. We all go through this at some point.

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How I Spent My 4th of July

As we were roaming the field at VMI, I was listening to the music that band was playing in the little gazebo and thinking about the flags that were waving. A few weeks ago we took a short weekend trip to DC where we saw the original flag. Not Betsy Ross' flag , but Mary Pickersgill's. It was beautiful and a little surreal, and I was amazed we still have this symbol. Looking around there were so many flags on flags, and people, and a few dogs. We settled on a spot in the grass and threw a blanket out to wait for the fireworks. He was relaxing in front of me on one elbow, and I looked around and felt that lump. It was for the pride I have in him, knowing that as corny as it sounds (sometimes because the word gets thrown around a lot) he really is a hero. So I sat there on the grass holding the hand of my own personal hero, knowing that next year, more than likely he won't be there to hold my hand and watch the fireworks, he'll be where the army sends him.

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Meeting Dr. Jill Biden

Me (FRG Leader), Dr. Jill Biden, FRG Leader, BN CDR Spouse

OK!! SO now everyone knows how Patriotic I am right?? Yep, I voted this last presidental election and it would be no shocker as to what party I voted for...in fact, I am looking into becoming an Independent!!! UGH!! Where are the polictians who want to SERVE THE AMERICAN PEOPLE (THE MAJORITY OF THE AMERICAN PEOPLE) instead of themselves??

Well, as being a military spouse and an FRG Leader...you get to have some perks brought into your life...most good, and some not so good. Life as a Miltary spouse is hard, although how the economy is going---I'd say life is pretty darn good and we have been blessed by that. And I want to say I appreciate my husband---more times and more often than I do tell him. Pearl of Wisdom: Tell your spouse that you appreciate them...it goes very far for your relationship.

Anyway, back to the hypocrisy, so yes, I voted and is wasn't for this woman's husband either. I had volunteered for my hubby's BN to represent the unit within the BN. As an FRG Leader, of course I'll volunteer. Although I did have a slight doubt or concern after I had volunteered to do it--I thought about who the VIP was to be. I knew that the on-post celebration was to have the Ying-Yang Twins be the main show of the evening...would they want to meet spouses??

So, I was thinking ok---I need to email the FRST (Family Readiness Support Tech) again and make sure this VIP is a military person and not some rap group. It doesn't look good for a Christian girl to fraternize for the local paper with the Ying Yang twins. BTW, their show got cancelled due to passport issues... Fortunately, the FRST said it will either be and military person or person from Washington D.C. YIKES!!! In that case what do I wear???

Being Christian does not mean I don't know what is going on in the world...in fact I believe I might even read a few more articles than the norm. I personally thought the VIP was going to be the CSM of the Army; CSM Preston...he has been touring parts of Germany...excited none the less...not everyday to you get to meet and speak to the CSM of the Army.

TO my suprise...it was not a him. The VIP was a HER. Dr. Jill Biden. Yes, that is correct the Vice President of the United States Spouse-Dr. Jill Biden. So of course I go online to read her bio....very impressive. She has an alphabet behind her name. But what I was thinking that-she like any other spouse, has some guidance or influence to her spouse. I pray that they'll bring AMERICA back to stand proud & tall as when this great nation was becoming her own entity.

It was exciting to meet the VP's wife and I thanked her for supporting the military. It is always a blessing to have 'people' that our in charge or have great influences for this country to be patriotic and a blessing to the American people. I guess not everyone can say that they have shaken the hand of a VP's wife, but again, she is just another woman...but, the key is that she is a person who can or could influence a majority because of her husband's position and status. I pray that she does well with it.

I have been reading the book titled, "Dearest Friend" by Lynne Withey. It's the book about the life of Abigail Adams, a VP's wife and a President's wife. I haven't read it all, but I somehow get that the book pushes that she was a feminist. She has been quoted as to say, "Remember the ladies..." but I believe that was geared to the rights of every citizen and not the definition of what a femisnist is at present. She and John Adams were Christians. They believed what the Bible had to say about husband and wife, and they lived by it. I also think she lived more like a Soldier's spouse than more a President's wife....of course---in her time America was just starting out. Her husband had a KEY role into bringing America to life. She stayed home, worked at home, raised her children, worked the farm, was without her spouse for years, and she made many decisions on her own because her husband was fighting for their freedom (at home and abroad), for their American dream and for their children's futures.

Sure, I know plenty of women whose husbands' are deployed (as we speak), they do what Abigail did---take care of the home and all aspects of life. Does that make the military spouse a feminist?? I say wholeheartedly---NO. WE are supporting our spouse, our husbands. There is nothing feministic about that. WE would do well to imitate her personal strength, her faithfulness to her husband, children, and home. If there was ever an example I would know of to call name Proverbs 31 woman, it would be Abigail Adams.

Now she would be a P/VP's wife I would love to meet and greet. But, meeting the VP's wife of today wasn't all that bad either ;) Again, I am immensely grateful that she Supports our Troops; after all she, herself, has a son who is in military. I hoped that everyone had a wonderful and patriotic 4th of July holiday.

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How I Came To Love A Soldier

Hi, my name is Belle, and I am an army wife. Here is how I came to be:

I met my soldier over the computer. He and I wrote to each other over a few months before he asked for my number so he could properly ask me out on a date over the phone. A minute after I put my number in an instant message, my phone was ringing. I was a little nervous as I had never seen a picture of him, nor him of me. When he rang my doorbell, I gave a sharp intake of breath as a wish for the best. My first thought was of how cute he was, how relieved I was that he also looked relieved. That, and he looked like Matt Damon, even though I had never seen the appeal of him, I could at that moment. We had a marathon date, which ended close to 4 in the morning, with plans of another, and a light kiss. As I was climbing into bed deciding I really liked this guy, the phone rang. It was him wanting to know if I wanted to go get some breakfast. That was 9 years ago, and we have been together ever since and while there have been a few snags, there has been enough love to pull us through them and make us stronger. 

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Happy 4th of July - www.ThanksUSA.org

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The Military Wife

The Military Wife

The good Lord was creating a model for Military Wives and was into his

sixth day of overtime when an Angel appeared.

She said, "Lord, you seem to be having a lot of trouble with this one.

What's wrong with the standard model?"

The Lord replied, "Have you seen the specs on this order? She has to be

completely independent, possess the qualities of both Mother and Father,

be a perfect hostess for four or forty with an hours notice, run on black

coffee, handle every emergency imaginable without a manual, be able

to carry on cheerfully, even if she is pregnant or has the flu, and she

has to have six pair of hands."

The Angel shook her head. "Six pair of hands? No way!"

The Lord continued, "Don't worry, we will make other Military

Wives to help her. And we will give her an unusually strong heart

so it can swell with pride in her Husband's achievements, sustain

the pain of separation, beat soundly when it is overworked and tired,

and be large enough to say "I understand" when she doesn't and

"I love you" regardless."

"Lord", said the Angel, touching his arm gently. "Go to bed and

get some rest. You can finish this tomorrow."

"I can't stop now", said the Lord. "I am so close to creating something

so unique. Already this model heals herself when she is sick,

can put up six unexpected guests for the weekend, wave goodbye

to her Husband from a pier, a runway or a depot, and understand

why it is important that he leave."

The Angel circled the model of the Military Wife, looked at it

closely and sighed. "It looks fine, but it's too soft."

"She may look soft," replied the Lord, "but she has the strength

of a lion. You would not believe what she can endure."

Finally, the Angel bent over and ran her finger across

the cheek of the Lord's creation. "There's a leak," she announced.

"Something is wrong with the construction. I'm not surprised that

it has cracked. You are trying to put too much into this model."

The Lord appeared offended at the Angel's lack of confidence.

"What you see is not a leak. It's a tear."

"A tear? What is it there for?", asked the Angel.

The Lord replied, "It's for joy, sadness, pain, disappointment,

loneliness, pride and dedication to all the values that she

and her Husband hold dear."

"You are a genius!" exclaimed the Angel.

The Lord looked puzzled and replied,

"I didn't put it there."


-Author Unknown

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Letters From War

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Summer Reading: Memories Are Made of This

Summer Reading: Memories Are Made of This
By John Holdren, K12’s senior vice president for content and curriculum

Oh, those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer reading, when you can flop backwards on the couch, slump against a tree trunk, or sprawl on the sand and just take in the pages for pure pleasure. Yes, it’s good for you, but let’s just ignore the undeniable educational benefits and concentrate on the joy of reading whatever you like, with no follow-up questions, no unit assessment, no analytical essays.

So much to read and so little time—where do you begin? You might already have a list of titles, but if not, consider these favorites from a few folks who work at K12, who have taken time to recall some of their favorite books from their youthful days.


You must read From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler by E.L. Konigsburg. Two children escape to a museum where they camp out in exhibits, gather coins from fountains, and solve a fabulously guarded mystery. Every time I went into a museum after reading this book, I would think about hiding out until closing, when I could have free rein to see and touch all of the exhibits from which I’d been cordoned off earlier in the day. -Sasha Wall, Manager, Learning Environment K–5

When I was a boy, National Velvet by Enid Bagnold captivated me; I remember being completely engrossed in it. Also, The Wind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame. There is an ethereal quality about this book that is nearly hypnotic. And the Hardy Boys series—although these books might seem dated to the modern reader, the adventure, mystery, and intrigue are still alive for boys today. -Dan Franck, Senior Content Specialist, Science

In the third grade at my public elementary school, I somehow latched onto versions of Homer’s Iliad and Odyssey retold for kids by Aubrey de Sélincourt. The material was totally foreign to my family experience on a Michigan farm, so it seemed exotic and awe-inspiring. I kept reborrowing the books and would reread them straight through, over and over. (The same obsessive rereading overtook me with Jules Verne’s 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea.) Turning back to Homer so often, I started to half-believe in the gods and goddesses of Greece, the tragedy of Troy, and the wanderings of Odysseus. -David Pelizzari, Senior Director, Content and Curriculum

One of my favorite novels from childhood is Harriet the Spy by Louise Fitzhugh. Harriet keeps a notebook with her at all times and is always furiously scribbling her observations about people, places, and behaviors. Although Harriet intends for her notes to be private, her classmates read them, and Harriet learns an important lesson about being true to oneself while managing to navigate the complexities of adolescent life. I think there’s a little Harriet in all of us. -Beth Zemble, Director, English Language Arts/Alternative Learning Strategies

When I was younger (probably 4 or 5), I loved the Little Critter series by Mercer Mayer. The books touched on life lessons and typical child mischief. Later, I also loved the Goosebumps books by R.L. Stine—full of adventure, and so many to choose from. In middle school, I read Night by Elie Wiesel for the first time, and again in high school. It really touched my heart and made me feel for the tragic victims of the Holocaust. -Kelly Rice, Project Coordinator, High School Product Development

My most vivid reading memory from school days is The Lord of the Rings trilogy by J.R.R. Tolkien. I stayed up until the wee hours of the morning reading the first book, then read each of the other books in a single day as well. The stories pulled me in like nothing I had read before. -Paul Thomas, Senior Content Specialist, Mathematics

I was in fifth grade, and we had just moved to the United States from Zambia. I was a long-haired, barefoot wild child with a love for reading, and so tragically uncool. Imagine moving to the States at 9 and having no background in music, movies, television, fashion. Who is John Lennon? Who is Elvis? The Bee Gees are not cool? Let’s just say that fitting in was not happening. It was tough to make friends those first years. In sixth grade I was hanging out in the library, looking alone and out of place, and the librarian came up to me to help me find something to read. She picked out The Hobbit. I had never read a fantasy novel before, and I spent several late nights under the covers with the flashlight reading about the brave band of travelers and their adventures. It opened my eyes to a whole new world of books and adventures that truly took me away from the awkwardness of growing up, an escape where everything and everyone was different. The book also introduced me to other people who love fantasy fiction. One of those people (a million years later) is my husband. He and I have now read The Hobbit and the Lord of the Rings series out loud to each other (he does a wicked imitation of Gimli), and we can’t wait to read them together with our daughter—or maybe we’ll just leave a flashlight by her bed.
Kim Barcas, Senior Creative Designer

The books I could not put down were the Little House books by Laura Ingalls Wilder. My second-grade teacher read Little House in the Big Woods aloud to our class, and I was hooked. I felt like I was there with Laura and Mary and Pa and Ma. I liked, too, how the stories emphasized the gentle but strong, loving family bond. That is why I am a reader. Through a good story, I can understand and relate to the experiences of the characters and go places I could never go in reality. -Suzanne Montazer, Art Director, Product Development

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