It's so sad

Today, I've been sitting here at my computer looking at the online newspaper all day. I'm mystified as to how one of the biggest stories in a city can be about a goose (http://news.cincinnati.com/article/20090527/NEWS01/305270020/1055/NEWS/Did+deputy+properly+kill+goose?). Then, as I scrolled through all the news, the last story caught my eye. A local Navy Reservist was killed in a murder-suicide by her husband. Not only was I appalled at the story, but then as I read on, I found out that I know her brother. He is now a Major who is in my husband's unit, a unit that I also used to be in. His wife is a Captain in that unit as well. When the guys were in Iraq last year, about to come home MAJ Walton and his sister got to meet up for awhile and spend some time together, as she had just gotten there. In the tv interview, MAJ Walton said that while his sis was gone, he and his wife tried to help her husband deal with it, but he just got more depressed and fell into alcoholism and started to hate the military. He also told the news that after she returned that he demanded she get out of the military. I just don't understand it. We, as military spouses, deal with deployments on a regular basis. We all know that our spouse has a committment to fulfill. Even as much as I want myself out of the army right now, I know I have a committment to fulfill. Matt told me once - before we got married - that he would NOT marry me if I let myself get U'd out of the Army (in the guard and reserves that means you didn't show and didn't call or anything - it's an unexcused absence - once you get 9 of those (and there are 2 per day) you get kicked out of the Army). He said if I wasn't able to finish the committment I had signed up for, that was just a 6 year committment - then how would he know that I would be committed to a lifetime with him. Ok, so that made sense to me. Now, I am so perplexed as to why this had to happen. I hate it when people shout out that they hate the military. I just DON'T understand it. It's because of the military that everyone in America has freedom. I have to give props the the Grey's Anatomy writers. The season finale when Callie's girlfriend was saying it was awesome that George enlisted and then when Callie finally listened to her reason - man, I wish more of mainstream America would stand up for the military like that. I already loved Grey's Anatomy, but that sure did affirm my liking of that show. Not to mention that the creators of it also created Army Wives. Back to the topic at hand - I just don't get it. When Matt was deployed, I fell into depression - and pretty bad too. With all the horrible thoughts that I had - killing him NEVER came to mind. I don't know, but I guess anyone can snap at anytime? All I know is that my heart is so heavy after reading this story, while my thoughts and prayers go out to her family. http://news.cincinnati.com/article/20090526/NEWS0107/305260031/Navy+was+victim+s+passion